How Do I Introduce My Husband to My Boyfriend?

Do I bring them together or do I keep these two relationships separate?

In this week’s Savage Love: I’m in a Daddy/boy relationship with another man. Do I introduce him to my husband or should I keep them separated?

by Dan Savage

As a Gay Dude, Do I Need to Worry About Monkeypox?

And how soon is too soon to say “I love you” for the first time?

Gay dude here. What the fuck is up with monkeypox? Do I need to be worried? Yes, you do. I tried to raise the alarm about monkeypox on the May 24, 2022, episode of the Savage Lovecast, back when there were 100 cases in 15 countries, all of them among gay and bi men. Now…

by Dan Savage

I Hooked Up With a Bad Dom. Should I Call Him Out?

I worry more women are going to have their boundaries violated by this guy.

I’m a 29-year-old bisexual woman in a nonmonogamous relationship. A few years ago, I wanted to explore my submissive side and met up with a Dom I connected with on a kink site. We had a few drinks and hit it off. We discussed what we were comfortable with and our limits beforehand. I set…

by Dan Savage

I’m Trying to Date Again After Back-to-Back Negative Experiences

What should I be asking myself as I begin to form new attachments, especially after showing such bad judgment in the recent past?

I’m trying to date again after back-to-back negative relationship experiences. Experiences that have made me question my own judgment and ability to set good boundaries. My friends and therapist all pointed out the red flags, but I was apparently blind to them. I love what you’ve said about how there is no “The One” out…

by Dan Savage

I Don’t Want to Fall into a Daddy/Boy Dynamic Accidentally

How do I date him like I would someone closer to my age and income?

I’m a 31-year-old queer person living in Europe. I recently met a 46-year-old man. We were visiting the same city for work and met on an app and went on a series of amazing dates. We have a lot of similar interests and work in parallel fields. Now we’re planning a trip to see each…

by Dan Savage

My Wife Recently Caught Feelings

She stays at her girlfriend’s place one to two nights a week. I get jealous and sick to my stomach when she is over there.

Straight guy here in a one-sided open relationship. My wife and I opened our relationship just for her and to females only so she could explore her bisexual side. I’m super proud of her for coming out and wanted her to feel fulfilled. When we agreed to this, I was naive and figured anything she…

by Dan Savage

I Have a Problem When I Have Sex or Masturbate

I have consulted several gynecologists, but no anomaly or infection of any kind has been found.

I am a 29-year-old woman, and I have a problem when I have sex or masturbate. I always feel an annoying pain, a stinging sensation in my vulva, at the entrance of the vagina, that does not allow me to enjoy it, as the pain is too overwhelming. Unfortunately, this situation has led me to…

by Savage Love

Do I Take the Plunge With my Much-Older Boyfriend?

It doesn’t seem fair to have a child with a man who is almost 70.

I have a problem. (How’s that for an opener?) I’m a 60-something cis woman with a 30-something cis man lover. The problem is my vagina is extremely tight. Also, sometimes I bleed a little bit after PIV and then urinating burns, but only briefly. We are only able to hook up about every other week, so…

by Dan Savage

I Want Being Poly to Be Something That Makes Life Amazing!

But I am still being restricted by silly feelings put in my head via some nefarious patriarchal capitalist hack.

I’m a 34-year-old straight cis male. About 18 months ago, I met a lovely human that I’m crazy about. When we started dating, she said she needed us to be poly, and I agreed. It was a first for both of us! I’d always been interested—my parents are queer and have been poly my whole…

by Dan Savage

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