Last year, we delved into the world of 7orbetter.com, an online dating network that caters to men with long penises—and the men and women who love them. Recently, a reader wrote in to ask if there exists any similar service for men with genitals on the opposite end of the ruler. He writes:

Hello Amanda, I recently read your article about this website and wondered if you found any others with the opposite slant.  I think the concept is great in that you do know up front.  As an alternative are there any sites that also advertise size but not focused on the larger variety of men.  I guess what I am getting at is getting the whole "size" question out of the way early so there is no disappointment when things are revealed.  A girl may not want a 7 incher but a 4 incher may also be unacceptable.

I'm not an expert on genitally-themed dating sites myself, so I reached out to my sole contact in the field of penis-length marketing: 7orbetter.com creator Steven Pasternack.

"As far as I know there are no sites devoted to men with a small penis," he writes. However, Pasternack does foresee some room for his own large penis dating site to expand to smaller sizes in the future. "I had played with the idea of allowing men with all penis sizes on 7orbetter but it sort of detracts from the marketing angle of men with 7" or better in size," he writes. "As the site becomes more established I will probably open it up for everyone eventually, but by itself I do not see a very marketable site that is devoted only to men with small penises."

7orbetter.com's bias in favor of larger-than-average penises is no secret—after all, we're not dealing with "7orlonger.com" here. I imagine that this "marketing angle" attracts two demographics: Discriminating ladies and gentlemen who are solely interested in men with big dicks, and guys who want a forum to brag about the size of their cocks. 7orbetter.com, in other words, is the perfect spot for hooking up shallow penis-seekers and conceited penis-holders. They're perfect for one another.

A site like, say, "4orsmaller.com" would struggle to tap into such a cosmic dynamic. I'd like to think that some men and women would be attracted to a guy with the self-confidence to stand up in an Internet forum and say, "My penis is smaller than the average penis. Now, on to my various hobbies and personality quirks." However, I doubt that those same men and women would want to restrict their online dating opportunities to a Web site specifically themed around shorter-than-average-penises. I imagine that men interested in advertising their genitalia on such a site might be better off finding an understanding sex partner the old fashioned way—real-life trial-and-error.

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As this phallic graphic illustration shows, sex partners who require penises that are "seven or better" are looking at a pretty exclusive pool of applicants. The too much information is courtesy of Lifestyles condoms.

. . . In which we review the stories that you clicked on the most. But first, a fun Sexist fact: If your name appears in a story on my blog, do not assume that it means I am labeling you a "sexist"! No offense, dudes who have been confused on that lately who shall remain nameless: Sexist refers to me.

Last week on the Sexist (which refers to me and not you!)

1. Welcome to the Anti-Gay Auditions!, in which you're probably glad you didn't get the part.

2. Observe and Report's Date Rape Apologism, in which commenters argue over who's actually seen the movie.

3. Why Sex Positivity is Bad for Feminism, in which I enrage entire movements.

4. Big Penis Dating Site Reveals Inches Before First Date, in which we delve inside 7orbetter.com, an online community for the well-endowed (why not enrich your big dick experience with my interview with the site's creator, who would totally be on the site if he were not married?)

5. Menace to Sorority, in which the sorority members discuss gender issues none of them seem to understand.

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Yesterday, I took my first trip around the big penis dating site 7orbetter.com, an exclusive online community for men with penises that measure seven inches or longer, and the women who love them.

The site is the brainchild of Steven Pasternack, a Miami, Fla. entrepreneur who is no stranger to the dating woes of the well-endowed. Pasternack is also the man behind sugardaddie.com, an online dating site "Where the classy, attractive, and affluent meet."

Pasternack's anatomically-based venture, launched a couple of weeks ago, "is not a joke," Pasternack, 45, confirms. "Believe it or not, this is a very important thing for some women. They're looking for the size, but they still want a well-rounded, quality guy."

Pasternack says the inspiration for the Web site came "from a female friend of mine," who confided in Pasternack that "she wants to meet quality guys, but when it comes time to go to bed with the guy, she's sometimes disappointed with how the guy can please her," says Pasternack. "She said it would be nice to know up-front what she can get from them."

The Web site has already attracted nearly a thousand women like her: There are currently 875 female members listed on the site. There are also 869 men, indicating that there are as many men out there advertising big penises as there are women who want them. "The men are interested in signing up, obviously, because they’re proud of what they have. They're glad they have a place to say hey—I’ve got eight inches, or nine. It's not a matter of bragging. Some women can’t handle what they have, sexually, and it turns out to be a disappointment for [the man]. They want the women to know up-front what they have—so it works both ways, actually."

The member profiles are on par with most online dating sites—age, height, weight, smoking or not—except that men are also asked to report the length of their penises, and whether or not they are circumcised. Men must claim seven inch penises "or better" to be eligible to use the site; there are no sign-up requirements for women.

Pasternack arrived at the magic number seven after "consulting a few female friends," he says. "Most of them had a preference for six-and-a-half or seven. I rounded up to seven." Men aren't asked to report girth. "Girth—that's a good question. We're considering adding that as a category," says Pasternack.

Pasternack insists that beyond the dimensions, 7orbetter.com is a dating site like any other, and obscene language, revealing photos, or prostitution dealings will not be tolerated. Still, Pasternack admits that revealing one's penis size alongside his snorkeling interest might be considered inappropriate in any other venue. "I don’t think it would sit very well with eHarmony," says Pasternack. "Match.com, I don’t think they’re ready for this either."

But how do women know whether a man's self-reported penis size is accurate? The Web site's terms of use notes that "Any information posted on 7orbetter.com's website must conform to reality and be accurate in its description and content." If you are a member of 7orbetter.com, and you do meet up with a man you believe is misrepresenting his penis size, you can always report him to Pasternack. Pasternack says that once two or more women report that a man isn't packing what hes reported, he's off the site. "Sometimes, a person could be acting vindictively. You never know," says Pasternack. "So we wait for two separate complaints to revoke his membership." So far, no members have failed to measure up.

As for Pasternack, who is married, 7orbetter.com is strictly a business interest—you won't find Pasternack's profile, or his measurements, on the site. But if 7orbetter.com were around when Pasternack was dating, would he have been eligible? "That’s a very personal question," says Pasternack. "If you must know, yes. Yes I would be."

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In the wake of the debut of exclusive big penis online dating site "Seven or Better," I think it's time to address another grave disparity implicit in our society's traditional dating scheme. Now, thanks to Seven or Better, women in the United States, the United Kingdom, Canada, and Australia can learn the dimensions of her potential date's penis before enduring the hassle of meeting, getting to know, becoming sexually interested in, and disrobing him.

But what about these large-penised men? Shouldn't men also be allowed to date freely without having to worry that his date's vagina is not large enough to accommodate his 7" or larger penis?

That's why I'm proposing a new online dating community tailored for men exclusively seeking women with accommodating vaginas. We'll call it something classy, like "Huge Vaginas or Better," and only women with what are generally accepted to be expansive vaginal canals (or, of course, better!) will be allowed to sign up.

But how will women know if they qualify? A woman can't simply hold a ruler up to her aroused genitalia and quickly record a measurement that men can then use to judge her sexual potential.

Ladies, here's how you know. If you are a woman who is so incapable of becoming sexually aroused by—or even consider forming an emotional connection to—a man with a penis smaller than seven inches long that you sign up for a dating site that screens out all men with "unacceptable" genitalia, then your vagina is probably good enough for Huge Vaginas or Better.

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"Seven or Better" is a new online dating site for women and men interested in meeting men with penises that are confirmed to be seven inches or longer (the site doesn't clarify, but I'm assuming we're talking erect). "Hello ladies," the Web site begins. "Wouldn't it be nice to know upfront if a man has what it takes to satisfy you sexually?"

No. But go on:

For men interested in women, it is quite easy to see if the woman's breast size is to his liking or not, or even the shape and size of her derriere. The same goes for women interested in men. There are many women that feel the size of a man's penis is very important to them. Unfortunately, because of how society is, it is very inappropriate to ask a man immediately how big his penis is or even if he is uncircumcised or not. A properly behaved woman that is respectful would never ask such a question. Instead, a woman will date a man perhaps for a few days, weeks or maybe months. After all this time the woman will decide she likes the man and that it is finally time to take things to a new level/the bedroom. It is at this time that many women are disappointed with what they find and now they are in an awkward situation.

Isn't society just terrible? A "properly behaved woman" who is only interested in men with huge penises may have to wait months—months!—before figuring out that the man that she has spent months falling in love with has been hiding a dick that's slightly too small to deserve that love. Now, with Seven or Better, that woman can know from the first date the exact dimensions of that penis she doesn't want to see yet.

This is only fair, seeing as men know immediately and exactly the size of a woman's breasts—a measurement that can never be hidden, covered up, padded, or surgically augmented. Now, women, too, can have their potential sex partners flaunt their size before they even have to meet for coffee. But remember guys, this is a dating site for women, not a porn site for exhibitionist dudes. Men are encouraged to reveal their penis size in a completely friendly, non-pervy context, alongside their other attributes, like how smart they are or whatever.

But there's more. In accordance (I'm assuming) with anti-discrimination policies, those who become members of Seven or Better include: Men with penises 7" or longer looking for women, women looking for men with penises 7" or longer, men with penises 7" or longer looking for men with penises 7" or longer, or women looking for women. Yes, Seven or Better welcomes all, except for men with penises shorter—excuse me, worse—than 7" long.

So—are these women-looking-for-women looking for women who are looking for men with penises 7" or longer? Or are they simply signaling an interest in 7" or longer penis-shaped sex toys? I didn't finish the registration process—perhaps I was afraid of what I would find—so I don't know if any lesbians have signed up here yet. If anyone out there is an, ahem, member, I'd be interested in learning what might intrigue lesbians in this big dick business.

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