Moe Tkacik wrote a kick-ass response to her haters on DoubleX, a ten-year retrospective of sorts on her personal experience with rape. It’s titled “Why I Didn’t Report My Date-Rape: Because People Do Stupid Things.”

And then, very quickly, a commenter did a stupid thing!

“doovinator,” who appears in his photo with a young child wrapped around his neck, writes:

A woman once took me home with her; I thought we had some real, if drunken, feelings for each other after we’d met at a party. She took a shower, joined me in her bed, things progressed the way you might think they would, and I thought we had a lovely encounter, though she seemed a little bit tense and I mentioned it to her. She responded, “well, you’d be tense too, if you’d just been RAPED!”

Wait a minute, I said, that’s not how I saw it AT ALL. We didn’t exactly discuss our intentions beforehand, but she joined me in bed, nude and apparently willing, and hadn’t offered any resistance when I made my advances. She may have whispered “no” once or twice, but didn’t make any effort to stop me or even slow me down much. Some may call it “date rape”, but I really liked her, thought we were doing fine and would have loved to have had a further relationship. That didn’t happen.

~DJ

“Some may call it ‘date rape’, but I really liked her.” Okay, now I am taking a shower.

Take It With a Grain of Assault: Palmer finds humor in her rape.

Hint: Frat boys, check; Victims, no.

Amanda Palmer’s new single, “Oasis,” is a sunny tune about a tumultuous time in a teenager’s life. After enduring rape, abortion, and a schoolwide slut-shaming, the girl receives an autographed headshot of her favorite band—Oasis—in the mail, and everything is again peachy. On her blog, Palmer posted a note from her British record label, Roadrunner, saying the video—which features a brief comic rape scene—had met with “fierce opposition” from the U.K.’s major music networks:

Meanwhile, back home, Jamie Foxx’s latest single, “Blame it (On the Alcohol),” is currently No. 3 on the Billboard Hot 100. Its video, featuring Ron Howard, Jake Gyllenhaal, and Samuel L. Jackson, enjoys a heavy rotation on U.S. MTV—despite an equally frothy date-rape theme. The song details Foxx’s pursuit of an increasingly drunk lady. The track also features T. Pain, who chimes through his hallmark vocoder: “Couple more shots you open up like a book.” The song is, essentially, an attempted date rape by a movie star and a dude who sounds like a robot:

Who is allowed to make light of rape?

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