Posts Tagged ‘date rape’
What Does Date Rape Smell Like?
The Line, a new documentary film about sex and consent, hit the American University campus last week. Today, The Line’s blog addressed the recent controversy at AU over student newspaper the Eagle’s anonymous sex column, which presented a drunk, hazy, and painful sexual experience as a normal college hook-up:
You’re Drunk. It’s Inside You. It Kind of Hurts. Is It Rape?
When American University students returned to school this fall, student newspaper the Eagle greeted them with a warning. In a piece titled “Sex-perimentation defines Welcome Week,” three anonymous sex columnists presented a nightmare college sex scenario:
It’s three in the morning. You have it inside you right now. It kind of hurts. You’ve had one too many cups of jungle juice. You think his name is Andrew, but you’re not really sure. You thought you would never be that girl, but there you are, in your drunken haze.
You wake up the day after to an unfamiliar ceiling, some guy who smells like booze, AXE body spray and, well, something else. He wants to cuddle and you’re starting to think maybe this drunken hook-up [ ________ ].
Reader: How did the AU Eagle complete that sentence?
a. You’re starting to think maybe this drunken hook-up was rape.
b. You’re starting to think maybe this drunken hook-up was a product of society’s shaming of female sexuality, which encourages women to resort to dangerous, heavily intoxicated, and painful sex with strangers instead of openly pursuing empowered, respectful, and satisfying sexual experiences with desired sexual partners.
c. You’re starting to think maybe this drunken hook-up could turn into something.
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Make Your Own Date Rape Jam For Only $2.99
Have you always wanted to blame your casual sexual encounters on the Goose, but the words just never came out right? Put another way: Do you have a bunch of date-rapey sentiments to unload upon the general public, but don’t want to have to use your recognizable, human voice? The “I Am T-Pain” iPhone application is here to help.
According to Pitchfork’s review of T-Pain’s new democratization of the Auto-Tune, the function “can make anyone’s voice sound like that of a sex-addicted robot. I just tried it; it works.” T-Pain has plenty of sketchy drunk sex jams to choose from, but the sketchiest is his lasting contribution to Jamie Foxx’s Blame It (On the Alcohol). Give your $2.99 to T-Pain, and let’s review:
“How to Be Smart and Avoid Date Rape” Is Dumb
I’m sure that this eHow article on how to avoid date rape means well, but some of the tips—like “If you get in his car, you will not be able to get out!!!!”—are, perhaps, extreme. And the title could use a bit of work:
Catholic University Gets Tougher on Sexual Assault, Remains Tough on Sex
The Catholic University of America (CUA) this summer revised its student rules to clarify that the school condemns sexual assault more strongly than consensual sex. The change to the policy, which became official July 27, comes in the aftermath of litigation questioning the propriety and effectiveness of the university’s longtime regulations.
Prior to the change, the CUA campus code performed an awkward lumping operation when it came to sex: Its sexual misconduct clause outlawed “physical conduct of a sexual nature that is unwanted by either party and/or that is disruptive to the university community, such as any sexual expression that is inconsistent with the teaching and moral values of the Catholic church.”
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Avoid Date Rape: Weed Out the Snugglers
Beware the snugglers.
Lea Haben, “relationship coach,” wants to warn her clients about the dangers of on-line dating:
Haben said, “I’ve had clients that experienced full-on date rape* and I’ve had clients that have come very, very close to date rape. ” . . . Haben said look closely and you’ll find warning signs right there on a person’s profile page. “He’s not even wearing a shirt. His interests are snuggling, his favorite thing is skin to skin contact. Notice the profile if it’s very vague or you don’t get a good sense, ask for more information.”
Snuggling. Sure, it may sound sensitive, but we all know what snuggling really means: danger. It’s the number one dangerous interest! And beware: Plenty of local online daters are sneaking this secret code-word into their otherwise innocuous personals ads (emphasis mine):
Rape Prevention Tips From Rapists: Stay Inside Or Die A Horrible Death
Ladies: want to know the secret to not getting raped? According to a rape prevention e-mail circling the Internets, all you have to do is always live in fear of being pulled into a van, violated, mutilated, and left for dead at any moment (also, cut off all your hair).
These rape prevention tips, like all trustworthy advice, came to me courtesy of a friend’s ex-roommate’s mom’s yoga instructor. Some of the ideas here, culled from interviews with imprisoned rapists, are helpful enough—”be aware of your surroundings”; “go for the groin”; “if you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.” Others—don’t wear clothes you can remove, stop helping babies, never ever drive anywhere—are more likely to keep women dependent than protected.
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Anti-Rape Device or Vagina Spaceship?
Today, anti-rape activists are hard at work in the schools, the clinics, the courts, and the media, in an attempt to help prevent rape. But over the years, some anti-rape inventors have proposed an alternative to education and awareness—why not work to prevent rape from inside the vagina? Here’s how it works—women just don’t use their vaginas, ever! Instead of penises, women are instructed to fill their cavities with razor blades, screws, hypodermic syringes, webbed nets, air bags, poisons, and sophisticated microcomputers. Below, a retrospective of the anti-rape device.
1976: “This invention relates to inserts for use within the vagina of a woman for the harming of a man who may insert a penis into the vagina of the woman. This invention represents improvements in such inserts and it provides more efficient means to lock on the penis and to lacerate the locked on penis.”
Date Rape Anthems: Karaoke No-No Edition
What’s the rapiest song you could choose to sing at your local watering hole’s karaoke night? Three out of three random Internet commenters agree: Sublime’s “Date Rape” will never get you laid. Readers, please: Don’t be Date Rape Karaoke Guy this weekend!
Michael Jackson Date Rape Anthems: Too Soon? Edition
Michael Jackson’s death at 50 from cardiac arrest has inspired the entire world to revisit the King of Pop’s body of work. And though I’m a huge MJ fan, I’d be remiss in my role as Pop Culture Fun Killer if I didn’t point out some defining characteristics of Jackson’s music videos: rapey, stalkey, and victim-blamey.
Off-screen, Jackson’s sex life was notoriously tortured—rumors in the press pegged Jackson alternately as a lifelong virgin, a pedophile, and a freak. In his music videos, we saw Jackson play with sexual violence and physical domination in order to portray the image of complete sexual control.
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