The Sexist

The Morning After: Fabulous Ex-Gay Scarf Edition


* Via BLOgT: Even ex-gays are allowed to wear fabulous scarves.

* Feministing points to a Brightest Young Things piece on how some LGBT folks define queer virginity.

* At Tiger Beatdown, Silvana reacts to a piece in the Washington Post about a victim of trauma who built an anti-terrorism career out of her fascination with "evil and violence":

Ironically enough, reading an article about someone else’s fascination with terror caused me to feel a little terror of my own. What if this explained it all? What if my fascination with detention and corrections, and compulsion to fight for people who are locked up, was all a complicated outgrowth of my history of trauma? I was harassed almost every day as a teenager, groped, assaulted, and in my late teens and early twenties raped repeatedly by a boyfriend. I was surrounded by people who had done bad things to me. But instead of being repulsed by criminals, rapists, terrorists, I identify with them. Because, just like women are the sex class, to be the recipient, the dumping-ground for male aggression, men of color and especially mentally ill men of color are the dumping ground for white male authoritarian state-sanctioned violence.

* At Jezebel, Irin Carmon interviews former staffers about The Daily Show's boys club. Head to the comments to read a deluge of defenses of this "progressive" product with a gender problem.

* Tracy Clark-Flory on a man who allegedly hacked into over 100 computers in search of private sex tapes and photos (44 of the victims were underage):

When we come across stories about violations of people's sexual privacy, whether on the news or in our personal lives, there's a tendency to go, Oh, well, that was stupid of them — they shouldn't have filmed that, they shouldn't have taken that photo, etc. And then you feel a bit safer, thanks to your superior wisdom, which tells you that you should not let your boyfriend keep a copy of your homemade sex tape and that you should decline that guy's request for a sexy photo (and maybe you even follow this advice, most of the time). The reality, though, is that precautions—no matter how sensible, no matter how self-righteously we trumpet them—are no match for someone set on exploitation.

  • Emily

    Situations like the one at the Daily Show are what I think of when some otherwise progressive men in my life try to tell me women's lib is over and we've met our goals and are now equal. The truth is that even otherwise progressive people and institutions still seem to have a problem with treating women equally.

    A similar situation is my deep conflict over American Apparel. Here there's this corporation that's doing some seemingly great things: they're providing me a channel to purchase USA-made clothing from garment workers paid a living wage, they support immigrant's rights, and they have cheered on the LGBT community. Oh, yeah, and Dov Charney is a sexist pig who considers his female employees to be his own personal stable of sex opportunities and believes that women are to blame for domestic violence. Awesome.

    So what's a girl to do if she's a crap seamstress and has to buy her clothes? Are there even any clothing companies out there that don't compromise my ethical standards in some way?

    I love Jon Stewart's comedy, but that doesn't (and shouldn't) make him immune to criticism.

  • Katie

    @Emily: agreed on TDS front, though that article depressed the hell out of me. Though I've definitely noticed the show's sexism (particularly in the 2008 election, when they were virulently anti-Hillary), I also hope and wish that Jon especially is the feminist I want him to be. In reality, I think he's like a lot of upper-class white liberal guys: he has great intentions (it seems), but feminism just isn't that much on his radar. Everyone who works on the show would do well to remember their female liberal fans (since women are more likely to be liberal in the first place) and incorporate more women writers, women correspondents, and feminist issues into their programming.

  • Native JD

    Try being Native American Emily. We're still referred to by Dan Snyder's ho-men's team name.

  • Em

    I read the article on TDS, and it was pretty disappointing (even though I knew most of that before, I guess I'd just blocked it from my conscious self because I love TDS and Stewart). But I felt like one thing they didn't address is that the show airs on Comedy Central, which is not exactly the beacon of progressivism or gender equality, and networks do have something to do with what happens on their shows. So that's a factor they kind of neglected.

    But I feel like a lot of progressivism has decided, like Emily said, that feminism is over and it's work is done and women can be objectified now, because it's funny! And if we say anything, we're whiny bitches. I understand the need to concentrate on gay rights right now, rock on, but don't forget about what we learned from feminism in doing so.

  • Laura

    That fabulous ex-gay is so much like Buddy Cole, he's about to tell us about his adventures coaching a lesbian softball team.

  • Jess

    Or if not Buddy Cole, then Burton Quim.

    I don't want to laugh at him because he's clearly suffering and it's hard to watch people being so at odds with themselves, but if he would just loosen up enough to watch the parodies, he'd realize he was one.

  • gdmt

    i love this video

  • Lizrd

    @ Emily, Katie, and Em
    I agree with everything you said about TDS. Ever since I read that article, though, I haven't been able to bring myself to watch that show. Even before I read that though, I was pissed when I saw they brought on Olivia Munn, because that seemed that they were, like almost every other show ever, catering to exclusively to their male ("oo a hottie and video games!!") audience. Why not a real comedienne? sigh.

  • kza

    Fucking white men

  • Katie

    @Lizrd: oh gosh, I admire that tenacity. Some things I can quite pretty easily (i.e. listening voluntarily to Chris Brown), but, for better or for worse, my loyalty to TDS and Colbert runs pretty damn deep.

  • Lizrd

    @Katie Mine does too! Don't get me wrong. I've been watching TDS since Craig Kilborn (I was 10) But 1. I haven't been watching the news/comedic news much lately because I can't watch anymore coverage about the oil spill. Its makes me sick to my stomach anymore. So, for my sanity/happiness, I've kind of been on a news outage anyway 2. I've been able to branch off of that. It's not really and boycott per say, because I'll be watching it again. But thinking about that level of anti-woman sentiment in combination with the oil spill shit, it just makes it hard for me to want to watch right now. I love CR and TDS too much to quit them entirely.

  • ….done

    I've noticed that about TDS for a long time. I'm disappointed but not shocked. Comedy Central is owned by Viacom. Viacom bought BET and it became MinstrelTV.

    You will never, ever see a black female on TDS.