The Sexist

The Morning After: Father Knows Best Edition

Patriarchal family values porn.

* Just in time for Father's Day, WorldNetDaily has republished David Kupelian's column on how refusing to acknowledge male superiority is hurting men:

"Father knows best."

How do those three words make you feel? Turn them over in your mind a couple of times and be aware of the subtlest of feelings. Be honest.

Do they make you feel slightly squeamish? A little discomfort in your solar plexus? Is something deep down inside you repelled by those words?

If so, you're not alone. Contempt for male authority—as if to say, "Give me a break, father sure didn't know best in my life"—is everywhere around us. We're swimming in it. You see, men, boys and masculinity itself have been under withering national assault for decades.

* Reporter John Townsend has outed an anti-gay Lutheran minister he met at meetings of "Courage," an anonymous Catholic program that helps gays and lesbians to suppress their sexuality. So, how ethical is that? From the NGJLA: "While many people disagree with [Courage's] approach—which focuses on working steps, remaining chaste, prayer, and little contact with openly gay people—the question is whether the practice, itself, is so dangerous that people’s expectation of anonymity should be violated in order to expose it."

* The GLAA congratulates Germany's gay penguins on becoming proud fathers.

* In other displays of gay pride, Metro Weekly presents 20 shirtless men dancing to a Lady Gaga medley in front of the Capitol building:


* And now for some less inspiring maneuvering: Gay council candidate Clark Ray accepts an endorsement from the Rev. Willie F. Wilson, who has opined on the issue of sexual orientation that "Lesbianism is about to take over our community" and "Can't make no connection with a screw and another screw."

  • PD

    I took so much issue with the 'Father Knows Best' article that I can't even begin to address it. Maybe I'll be coherent about it later, but I doubt it.

  • Molly

    What a bizarre article -- Kupelian starts out by using television shows as examples of real-life family values (WTF?) but then buries this brilliant bit in at the end:

    "Men, don't blame women for giving up on you and divorcing you. Some of the blame rightfully belongs to you! Your intense need for their emotional and sexual support, your selfish use of them, your impatience, your angry unmanliness – all this and much more literally creates the resentment within your beloved. Remember, women are much more vulnerable than men. You must be strong for your wife, which will eventually inspire her to be strong for you. So give up your own "hurt feelings" – really anger – toward her for being so emotional and even unreasonable; it’s the result of a frustration you've had a large part in creating or feeding."

    He would have done better to start out with that!

  • Katie

    @Molly: maybe I'm missing your point/sarcasm, but how would that have been better? The author calls women "much more vulnerable" than men, and denies men the possibility of having "hurt feelings" and instead insists that they can only be angry. He says that men have to be strong (read: big manly men!) for their wives, in order that the wives give up their crazy-ass emotions too. Sure, he places some of the "blame" on guys here, but I'm not sure there's anything positive about the way in which he does it.

  • Kit-Kat

    I read the Townsend piece, and I'm a little disturbed. He gained access to a counseling group under false pretenses, and then proceeded to reveal the identity of one of the members. He could have reported on the nature of the therapy provided and critiqued it thoroughly (and I think there is much to critique) without betraying the trust of anyone in the group.

    Programs like AA and NA rely on members of the group being able to trust each other completely with their secrets, struggles, and deepest feelings. Here Townsend finds a group of men, including a prominent minister, actively struggling with their homosexuality, clearly conflicted and ashamed of parts of their identity. He outs one of them based on the information he learned in group therapy conducted on the understanding of anonymity. What is the effect of that on the person outed? On the other members of the group, who learn they have been infiltrated and their private information is in the hands of a person who does not respect the confidentiality of their group?

    The critique asks an interesting question: if Townsend had learned that a prominent anti-gay activist was, in fact, engaged in homosexual activity because the activist confessed to it as part of his participation in an AA/NA meeting, would it be ethical to reveal that information?

  • Benjamin

    In response to the "Father Knows Best" article: Amanda, I love/hate you for constantly finding these disgusting "men are oppressed" websites/articles

  • Flutterby

    Articles like "Father Knows Best" always bug me because there are bits and pieces in them that I always agree with, like in this one where he mentioned how men are often portrayed in fictional media as bumbling idiots. Yes, that's sexism against men. But then they decide the best way to deal with that is with a different set of equally sexist standards that confine and degrade men and women.

    On another note: I fucking love Pride Month.