The Sexist

The Morning After: Living Large, Penis Style Edition

* Andrea Plaid takes on Trojan's new hip-hop centered Magnum condom campaign, "Magnum Live Large," and how it reinforces the "ye olde black male penis myth" [via Feministing]:

The campaign is an great idea, considering the epidemic-level stats on HIV and Black cis and trans women and, as my friend sexologist Bianca Laureano said, “especially in the hip-hop community where ‘I like it raw’ is still prominent.”

I am wondering, though, about the racialized sexual stereotypes undergirding and getting perpetuating by this, namely that mainstay of black sex-negative imagery, the Big Black Penis.

* Fuck you, LOST! Ahem. This is pretty interesting, however: Bitch Magazine crunches the numbers on race and death throughout the series.

* Emily Nagoski talks trials and tribulations of dating as a sex educator:

it’s hard to date when you’re a “sexpert” (hideous word). I mean, at what point in a new relationship is it appropriate to tell a guy that you’ve written a guide about fellatio? How early can you talk about orgasms and lubrication and the miracle that is cervical mucus? How early in a relationship is too early to use the word mucus? . . . It appears you can’t talk to any guy you’ve just met about sex—even about sex research—without giving him the wrong impression.

* On I Blame the Patriarchy, lessons learned from true crime documentary television:

(a) If a man targets you on Craigslist and murders you, remember that the really shocking thing to television producers will be the "photos of dead women in porn outfits."

(b) Sex work is only safe if you are working at the direction of a pimp. "So ladies, remember; if you’re gonna work the classier hotels, you’d better get yourself a pimp to “protect” you. Otherwise you might come down with a terminal case of slain masseuse."

* Sociological Images on Shape magazine: Kim Kardashian is confident with her body. Readers: Don't learn how to get confident—learn how to get a body just like Kim's!:

It’s another example of articles that pretend to be presenting an alternative to beauty standards/Hollywood ideals (be confident! Even stars have cellulite! So what?!?) but ultimately reinforce them, both by presenting images in which the featured women’s bodies differ little from those seen in the rest of the magazine and by making sure you know how to diet and exercise in order to get  your body to conform.

Photo via Thirteen of Clubs, Creative Commons Attribution License 2.0

  • Lizrd

    My heroes in this thread: Saurs and Katie

  • kza

    I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. Maybe I'm to optimistic. Probably.

  • Brad V

    @Toysoldier What do you find offensive about the label? I don't find your reasoning at #17 logical because it ignores that "trans" is a marked category and that "cis" is not. Would you like to suggest an alternative label to "cis"? "Not trans" reinforces the default position of cisness and the marked position of transness; this is why the label of "cis" has been chosen. Nice ad hominem with the "hissy fit" comment. There is no such thing going on.

  • Toysoldier

    It is not an ad hominem as I actually addressed your argument. My objection to "cis" is that it is a politically loaded term created by an in-group in order to other the majority population so as to feel better about themselves. The default condition of the vast majority of humans is "not trans," so it is not a matter of reinforcing a political position so much as it is demonstrating a fact.

    And as I explained above, if people prefer not to be called that label you should not use it. For example, you might find "red skins" the perfect label for Native American tribes. They, however, might object. Would you argue against not calling them "red skins"? How about not calling Asian people "oriental" or "yellow"? Or not transpeople "he-she"?

  • makomk

    It shouldn't really come as a surprise that murdered prostitutes aren't seen as people; in fact, here in the UK, our local feminist organizations have firmly taken the lead in making sure prostituted women stay that way. (Complete with lots of effort put into preventing the surviving ones having a voice: take a look at what happened to those that were initially invited to speak of their experiences of living in fear of one of our local prostitute-murderers at, IIRC, a London Feminist Network event. That lasted right up until the higher-ups heard about it and firmly squashed the idea.)