The Sexist

The Morning After: Racist Cunnilingus Party Edition

* Via SAFER Campus, Iowa's Grinnell College has responded to concerns about racist and misogynistic views expressed by students at a jello-heavy, cunnilingus-themed party. The upside: This is not the last time "cunnilingus" will appear on this blog today!

* Former Politico scribe Helena Andrews pens an essay about her frustration at only being set up with black men:

"I've got a guy for you. He's so hot, it's perfect." It was the spring of '08 when Maureen Dowd, the Pulitzer Prize-winning New York Times columnist, decided to take it upon herself to find me a man—specifically, Reggie Love, Barack Obama's "body guy" (read: personal aide). Standing outside the auditorium in Philadelphia where Obama the candidate had just given his loaded race speech, I thought to myself, How could a woman I'd helped with a computer problem once as an assistant at the Times spot the man for me? "Don't be silly," she said, when I demurred. "My assistant will set it up."

. . . It was clear that Reggie and I had just two things in common: We're black and we have bachelor's degrees.

Fishbowl D.C. then dispenses white editor Betsy Rothstein to mock Andrews for pointing out the racist undertones of a white woman she barely knows declaring her a "perfect" fit with some guy, because they're both black. Rothstein concludes her mockery by pointing out that Andrews was once photographed next to a black dog. A commenter responds: "Maybe you guys should stick to wishing white folks happy birthday."

* Even Bill O'Reilly thinks drawing conclusions about sexual orientation based on former softball involvement is ridiculous:

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* Via Feministing: Newsweek on why Yeardley Love "couldn't have gotten a restraining order if she wanted to."

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  • Beth

    It's a damn shame when bigotry interferes with cunnilingus. Is nothing sacred?

  • Tasha

    I agree, nothing should interfere with that......ever

  • Mike

    I had a similar experience as Andrews. I was working in a restaurant, and my boss told me to go upstairs to get a cup of O.J., so I could look at the new hostess, who turned out to be black. He assumed because I was black, that I would be attracted to her. Ethnicity, race, color, religion, are part of one’s identity, that most people look for when choosing a mate. Andrews is really making much ado about nothing. So someone assumed she would be interested in someone of her own ethnic background, big deal. She seems to be more upset with the fact someone assumed she would want to go out with someone of her own ethnicity, then with how the actual date turned out. I can think of a lot worse things to be offended by from my experiences of being black. Having white women clutch their pocket books when you walk by them, having white people lock their car doors when you pass them, being called the n-word.

  • http://bikegroggery.blogspot.com groggette

    The softball thing just amuses me, I mean really people? I sometimes get that "you play softball? hurhurhur" thing too, but at least in my case I actually play in a GLBT league. But yeah, I've been playing softball for 2 decades now and the only vulva I've ever had any affinity for is my own.

  • Victoria

    Virginia Code § 19.2-152.8 offers an emergency protective order. The next step is preliminary protective order , and then a protective order.

    Virginia does a lot of things wrong, true. They absolutely have ways to protect people who are in relationships, but not married, as well as general stalking and violence. I know that my friend's mom was able to get one against her boyfriend about a decade ago. I don't know who fact-checks for Newsweek, but a simple search of the Code shows as much.

  • Sarah #13

    I was confused about the "how" of the cunnilingus party until I read the original article. Perhaps it would be better to link to that, Amanda . . .?

    http://www.thesandb.com/news/remnants-of-on-campus-party-lead-to-administrative-action.html

    Mike: "I can think of a lot worse things to be offended by from my experiences of being black. Having white women clutch their pocket books when you walk by them, having white people lock their car doors when you pass them, being called the n-word."

    You bring up a good point, but I think that in order to stamp out racism, we have to tackle all problems of prejudice, not just obvious prejudices like locking a car door when a black man walks by, but also well-intended prejudices such as setting your black friends up on blind dates with black men or women (because they're the same color and have things in common, right?). She does conclude that maybe her colleague and mom just have her best interests in mind.

    "I'm not saying that my colleagues and neighbors should have set me up with white friends, necessarily. I was just disappointed that, despite all my more awesome qualities, the main thing they all saw was my skin. "

    I think that's pretty self-explanatory.

  • Sarah #13

    I am not confused, however, about the "how" of cunnilingus.

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