The Sexist

Dr. Laura: How to Navigate Childhood Sexual Abuse, Herpes, and “Really Slobbery Kisses”

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In this edition of Dr. Laura Schlessinger's YouTube extravaganza, the Doctor tackles a series of questions from Susan, a woman who has been forced to date men in order to ultimately become married to one of them. Susan is understandably confused on the specifics of such a modern endeavor.

Susan asks: "After years of dating, I still have a lot of questions. And since dating is essentially a prerequisite to marriage, I'd like your opinion on some of those questions. After one date, if a girl isn't interested in a serious relationship with a guy, should she go out with him again anyway? I've ben told that it's courteous to go out with a guy a second date unless the guy is a complete jerk. Until there's a definite dating relationship, should the girl pay for her share of the meal? How soon is it to considerate to disclose health issues? Information about past marriages? And other unpleasant corners of your life? And finally, how soon is it okay to kiss and hug?"

Over the next four minutes, Schlessinger informs Susan how to know when to ditch him ("With me, if he didn't open a door, take off my jacket and put it on the chair, pull out the chair and pay the tab, and open the door to the car, and pay for the gas to get me there, there wouldn't be a second date"); how to know when to tell him about your STIs ("For example, you have herpes. That's communicable!"), and how to know when to put dating on hold ("Gee, I was molested when I was five and I hate sex. This would be a good thing to clarify with your therapist before you begin dating").

Finally, Dr. Laura lets Susan know when to kiss him: "Hugs are nice at anytime. Pecks are good anytime. Really slobbery kisses and sucking on each others' face, that should wait awhile until you think each other is a keeper, I can't believe I answered that question. So until next time—I'm going to stop blushing—I'm Dr. Laura. Take care."

In the video, Dr. Laura became visibly uncomfortable discussing only one of the following topics:

a) "Gee, I was molested when I was five and I hate sex."

b) "For example, you have herpes. That's communicable!"

c) "Really slobbery kisses."

Hmm.

  • http://www.appalachianfeet.com/ Eliza

    Thank you for shining a spotlight on our injurious dating culture. It's sad when "doctors" lead the way.

  • Imp Lee

    Seriously? If you have previous marriages, you need to figure out what is wrong with you and then explain to a potential partner how you are better now? And heaven forbid you haven't got over all your issues before you dare to start dating...

    The immediate assumption she made that 'previous marriages' and 'health issues' translates to 'strings of failed marriages and an STI' is ridiculously offensive, too. I feel pretty bad for the woman who wrote in to her.

  • http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/sexist Amanda Hess

    Yeah, really. What if she has diabetes and her husband died?

  • m

    "With me, if he didn’t open a door, take off my jacket and put it on the chair, pull out the chair and pay the tab, and open the door to the car, and pay for the gas to get me there, there wouldn’t be a second date."

    I knew she was "traditional" but Jesus.

  • Vic

    I'm with Eliza. It really annoys me that "Dr." Laura gives out advice as if she's qualified. She's got a PhD in physiology, which does not make her a qualified therapist, counselor, or social worker. Even if she were, her discomfort with serious psychological issues would make her incompetent to give advice in such areas. Argh!

  • evie

    And talk about shaming childhood sexual abuse survivors... No sympathy for anyone who doesn't remember/can't yet face those issues before they're married, or who want any kind of relationship before they've 'worked out' all their issues.

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  • Flutterby

    *snarl*

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