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Date Rape Anthem: Juelz Santana’s “Back to the Crib”

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Date Rape Anthem: Juelz Santana's "Back to the Crib," featuring the no. 1 guy who really shouldn't be participating in tributes to sexual assault, Chris Brown. [Thanks to Megan Thomas-Melly for the recommendation].


Relevant Lyrics:

Shorty said she wanna roll with me
I said yeah
She don’t know that we going back to the crib
She know that I’m on her
She don’t know that we going back to the crib
Back to the crib, yeah

She wanna roll with me
She wanna go with with me
But she dont know I'm tryin to take her back home with me

. . . Lil mama we can birthday text
Yes I said text
But I know you know what I really meant (sex).

Why It's So Rapey: Here, Santana and Brown are essentially admitting that they are in the business of luring women back to their caves under false pretenses. Are you under the impression that you and Juelz are going to be engaging in some texting this evening, perhaps after rolling out of the club and on to a public second location? Guess again! You will be sexing this evening, in Juelz's crib. You should have known what he really meant.

But Is It Good? According to the hierarchy of date-rape jams,"Back to the Crib" is one of the most dangerous odes to predatory sexual behavior out there, because goddamn if I can't get the sweet melody of "she don't know we goin' back to the crib" out of my head. "The song is so catchy and of course I love it, I am meant to love it," writes Thomas-Melly. "but the lyrics are basically about raping someone."

Comments

  1. #1

    What a load of bullshit. Let me take some obtuse lyrics and infer that they are about rape!

    How do you get from "She doesn't know her current destination" to "I'm inserting my penis in her against her will"?

  2. #2

    Well, the problem is lying to women about going to a public place, with lots of people around (which she consented to) while actually taking her somewhere with no one around her but you (which she did not). In this song, its not something that can be easily remedied, either: she doesn't have a car that could get her away from the situation.

    At best, it amounts to sexual coercion: putting in her a position where it is significantly harder to say no, to get away from insistence of sexual contact; or simply putting her in a place that she may not be comfortable.

    At worst, this is a lie with the intent of getting her alone so that you can force yourself on her. I mean, she's there, so she must deserve it, amirite? Women are constantly told they are to blame for their rape if they are in the home of a man, alone; its a cornerstone of rape apology. To say that this scenario has no association with "penis insertion without consent" is to ignore the decades of victim blaming that have shamed victims and absolved perpetrators.

    Long story, short: The song is about a situation that is not without is sexual assault precedents, so its not quite the blind jump, from those two situations that you want to imply it is.

  3. #3

    *but her and you. Damn typos

  4. wrongsideofthetracks
    #4

    Do you even know how little you wrote is accurate? I guess everyone you know is an open book within the 1st 5 minutes of meeting someone. Whatever! Maybe you should actually listen to the song before you lynch the artist.

    Here. I'll spoon feed you...

    Here's her intent:
    "she said that I look like I taste good
    and she wanna eat me alive"

    Here's her consent:
    "tell me what you will do, tell me what you won't do,
    tell me what you don't know how to do so I can show you"

    So...

    At worst she's a gold digger using her sexuality to get access to a rich, famous man.

    At best, they really like each other and after they finish dancing, will go back to his house and have some great sex.

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