The Sexist

No Space For Men To Disclose Small Penis Size

Last year, we delved into the world of 7orbetter.com, an online dating network that caters to men with long penises—and the men and women who love them. Recently, a reader wrote in to ask if there exists any similar service for men with genitals on the opposite end of the ruler. He writes:

Hello Amanda, I recently read your article about this website and wondered if you found any others with the opposite slant.  I think the concept is great in that you do know up front.  As an alternative are there any sites that also advertise size but not focused on the larger variety of men.  I guess what I am getting at is getting the whole "size" question out of the way early so there is no disappointment when things are revealed.  A girl may not want a 7 incher but a 4 incher may also be unacceptable.

I'm not an expert on genitally-themed dating sites myself, so I reached out to my sole contact in the field of penis-length marketing: 7orbetter.com creator Steven Pasternack.

"As far as I know there are no sites devoted to men with a small penis," he writes. However, Pasternack does foresee some room for his own large penis dating site to expand to smaller sizes in the future. "I had played with the idea of allowing men with all penis sizes on 7orbetter but it sort of detracts from the marketing angle of men with 7" or better in size," he writes. "As the site becomes more established I will probably open it up for everyone eventually, but by itself I do not see a very marketable site that is devoted only to men with small penises."

7orbetter.com's bias in favor of larger-than-average penises is no secret—after all, we're not dealing with "7orlonger.com" here. I imagine that this "marketing angle" attracts two demographics: Discriminating ladies and gentlemen who are solely interested in men with big dicks, and guys who want a forum to brag about the size of their cocks. 7orbetter.com, in other words, is the perfect spot for hooking up shallow penis-seekers and conceited penis-holders. They're perfect for one another.

A site like, say, "4orsmaller.com" would struggle to tap into such a cosmic dynamic. I'd like to think that some men and women would be attracted to a guy with the self-confidence to stand up in an Internet forum and say, "My penis is smaller than the average penis. Now, on to my various hobbies and personality quirks." However, I doubt that those same men and women would want to restrict their online dating opportunities to a Web site specifically themed around shorter-than-average-penises. I imagine that men interested in advertising their genitalia on such a site might be better off finding an understanding sex partner the old fashioned way—real-life trial-and-error.

Photo by Darrow Montgomery

  • John Dias

    Amanda, what would you think of a site like "Double C or better?" Just wondering what your "inner feminist" would say... Would it be objectification, or just a way for "discriminating gentlemen" and lesbians to match their sexual preferences?

  • Melissa

    Not to jump in on your question to Amanda, I'm sure she'll still answer it if she finds your question worth addressing...but whether or not that happens, you should take note of the fact that both articles she has written on "7 or better" have had a disdainful and sarcastic tone. She has, in fact, gone so far as to say

    "7orbetter.com, in other words, is the perfect spot for hooking up shallow penis-seekers and conceited penis-holders. They’re perfect for one another."

    In light of this, you can no longer fall back on the "you feel perfectly fine with objectifying men but you complain when it's about women!" offense that you're setting up for...what other reason do you have to ask this question?

  • Emily H.

    "Double C"?

  • Pagan

    Yes, John Dias, this WOULD be objectifying to men as well as women, IF anyone were actually taking it seriously. Men are just so sensitive, shrill and most likely hormonal. Sound familiar????

  • Em

    Bahahaha. Double C?!? Greatness.

  • John Dias

    Em wrote:

    "Bahahaha. Double C?!? Greatness."

    Mock on... I walked right into that one. :-)

  • SockPuppet

    My college roommate used to talk about how he was attracted to women with small breasts, which he referred to as "apple breasts". He used to say "More than a mouthful is wasted." Does that apply here as well?

  • jeff

    I think John's original post is spot on. It's okay to make John Bobbitt (sp?) jokes, but if you were to joke about the mutilation of a woman's genitals and you'd be a monster. IMO, both are out of bounds.

    Can't have your cake and eat it too.

  • Em

    To be fair, the Babbit (? I don't know either and I'm way too lazy to google) incident was pretty isolated (last I checked, there was no widespread, institutional castration of men) and ended alright (I mean, didn't he later do porn?). Whereas the genital mutilation of women is a widespread form of cultural torture and misogyny in Africa, happening to thousands of women a year.

    Not really defending people who go "haha his penis got cut off" because I bet that's not really funny to dudes. But there's a reason female genital mutilation jokes are pretty much horrible and nonexistant, because it's a completely different situation.

    I feel like all of this "misandry" talk falls into that category. What men are experiencing is an EQUALIZING, where they no longer enjoy of the privilege of dominating the job market and the ability to do pretty much whatever they want (of course, I'm talking mostly of WHITE, STRAIGHT men, who pretty much all make up the MRA movement). They don't understand what they're experiencing is normal life shit, not discrimination and hate. It's the really mild stuff that the rest of us have been dealing with for a long time.

    It's just that the time of white, male priviledge is over. Shit happens to everyone, even you, and the law is not always automatically on your side anymore. Want to be a real "man"? Accept it and stop whining about it. You really look like a pussy AND an asshole when you whine every time your s/o makes you do the laundry. Laundry does not misandry make.

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  • MisterKiwi

    I would love to find a gay male partner - actually a long term relationship is preferred who is not a 'size queen'. Even sexually (for casual sex and pleasure) I'd like to find a guy who doesn't care about the size of a penis. I was born male with what is medically called 'a concealed penis'. It intrigues me that some FTM transexuals actually have penises that while not 'real' are visibly larger than my own (which when flaccid looks more like an 'inny belly button'). Interestingly I am able to have an erection 'inside' myself which baffles the docs. So far no gay, bi, or straight guy interested in exploring his 'bi/gay' side is interested in such a unique situation. when I have an 'outy' erection it's slightly smaller than average. Despite what media and people say size does seem to matter. The biggest thing I have is my heart, but, alas, not even a few of the 'men of my dreams' that I've loved have been man enough to want to settle down with a man without a cock.

  • MARK

    I find this opinion to be rather shallow and quite wrong. There are sites just for guys with small size, there we don't have to put up with your types. You people don't need to know about it. fuck off Amanda Hess and I hope you die Steven Pasternack, people like you make it harder for the rest of use.

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