Then of course there is the more subtle way. A guy had been dating his high school sweetheart for many years, maybe she's even pregnant, he feels he's supposed to marry her. He only realizes after getting married and living with her how unsuited they are for each other and how few values they share. Or a girl accepts all the encouragement, gifts, parties and adulation that comes with getting married to a nice, traditional guy, never examined if she really shares her parents' values until she moves in with her new husband, maybe living out from under her parents roof for the first time. As she gets a job, becomes a mom, meets more people, she realizes she may actually have some opinions different from when she got married. She'd never even thought of some of this stuff back then but making a living, raising kids, well she doesn't feel so inexperienced in life anymore, does she?

I guess my point of this is I really hope people are encouraged to examine their beliefs and find who they really are BEFORE they get married. And seek out someone to marry that accepts who they are, then you'll feel no need to cheat. And I recognize how hard this is, when people are told "you're too picky - you'd be married by now if you weren't so choosy" "you should marry a rich man, do this and that and the other and you can snag him" etc. etc. and people give up and decide to hide who they are for the type of security they get from marriage. I'm not trying to be judgemental, but I do think that talking about it and admitting what the problem is and how many people it affects is a good thing. I mean, if talking about this makes one mom quit joking around with their daughter to marry a rich man, this world will all ready be a better place, little things make a difference.

Sadly for you, this is not Saudi Arabia.