No morals, lack of judgement, lack of shame and lack of self respect and dignity. We're going down this slippery slope faster and it's going to get uglier.

Women who sleep with their partners too fast or have multiple partners simply don't get respect. They never have, they never will. And why should they? Why should men either for that matter?

Why do I want to have sex with a women who's slept around knowing that the only reason the guys who slept with her to begin with was of the freebies she was giving out?

Women carry a greater burdern for being promiscuous, namely pregnancy and then providing for that child. Children born out of wedlock is a huge problem and something that should be avoided at all costs.

It's not stable.

And in today's age with the abundance of information and contraceptive technology surrounding us, there is no excuse for getting pregnant now if you don't want to. People are simply being irresponsible and refusing to accept their part in this.

As for myself?

I'm very picky with women. I won't bed with someone outside of a relationship. I also won't be intimate with a woman who has a history of failed relationships and sexual partners littered across her past.

This just tells me that she gives her intimacy away too easily and really has no self respect, for if she did, she would make the men work harder for her attention and demand better of them in their pursuit of her.

It's madness and bullshit. The sexual revolution was an illusion.

@ mike, or maybe men could stop sexually harassing women. You do realize that being "hit on" is NOT a positive thing, yes?

"When a person, usually a male, calls out to, follows, etc. a female to get her number or take her home to bang her."

"Make sexual advances to someone, especially unwanted ones, as in 'You can't go into that bar without being hit on.'"

I'll talk to guys I like, and flirt with them, sure, but I don't think emulating men's bad behavior is the best way to equality. I mean, should we start raping you guys, too? That might make the rape rates more 'equal', but I wouldn't exactly call that progress.

Not to mention... Marriage is commitment to be with another person, "to have and to hold" etc. That doesn't mean the fake, modified version of a person created for the sake of selling himself or herself for marriage. There's no reason to feel pressured into avoiding "fucking" for the sake of potential future marriage. You are who you are. It's not like that kind of history would be a deal-breaker for everyone.

When women stand up and say "I like to fuck, and he was cute, so I did it" they may actually get more respect. Who can argue with that?! But no. Women always have a laundry list of reasons why they've been fucked by enough men to sail a small ship into battle. Meaning, at best, they make poor decisions, and at worst, they are an easy lay.

So ladies, keep on with the "double standard - looking for Mr. Right - a few mistakes" argument. It just makes you appear weak. Just say you like to fuck, and get on with it already. Just dont be surprised when you're 33 and can't pay a man to marry your easy booty.

It's a natural defense mechanism men develop to guard against being cheated. I used to admire promiscuous females for exactly the same reasons as you mentioned until I got in a relationship with a few. Nothing as painful and heart wrenching as dealing with a woman you truly love but who is somehow still completely ok with extending physically/sexually with guys she met within a few hours because "that's how she is".

No matter what you say, the fact is a women who seems like and does take a long amount of time to give in sexually is a lot less likely to ever cheat.

I don't want a woman who is a slut and I hope she wouldn't want me if I was a slut. Sleeping around in search of The One (a total bullshit concept) isn't the brightest of ideas.

I don't want someone who is cheap with their intimacy. Maybe someone else does, and that's fine by me, but they are not what I am looking for.

I'm tired of the whole "women who sleep around are sluts" debacle. I was really fortunate to befriend some more modern men who would never use that word, to describe men or women, or make that kind of value judgement about a person. I've observed that most of the men who refuse to label women sluts, and who actually love and like women, are getting the most sex. I refer to straight men who sleep around as man-whores, and demean them at every opportunity, and these more enlightened men have actually called me on it. Don't want to be valued for your vagina Sara? Then don't act like your vagina has inherent value to begin with.

Every time I ask my guy friends why they think it is okay to treat the "sluts" they picked up at the club that night like bags of dirt they say it is because they deserve to be treated that way. Now, I would like to know WHY they deserve to be treated that way. It is because the guys do not respect them. They see them as dirty, immoral and shameful. When I point out the hypocrisy - you're doing the exact same thing she is - I get the same stupid argument back - "guys have to take sex when they can get it because it's harder for guys to get laid than it is for girls." True. But the only reason for that is because men like them shame women into believing that they are not supposed to want sex! Women are supposed to want to "make love." They are not supposed to fuck. The reason men have to "take what they can get when they can get it" is because they make women feel like dirty, depraved sluts if they go ahead and fuck them. It's a self-perpetuating phenomenon that women have been dealing with for hundreds, possibly thousands of years.
I will agree that women are generally pickier about who they have sex with. But they do want it just as bad at any guy does.
For instance.. I haven't been laid in a while. It's fucking killing me. I want to have sex. Bad. Really bad. But I will not just go to the bar and find someone to fuck that night. Why? Because I KNOW what men DO to the women they take home from a bar! I know how they treat them! And I have too much self-respect to allow myself to be treated that way. I refuse to be treated like garbage. I live with a bunch of guys... every fucking day I have to hear about the horrible things they say and do to women they view as "sluts."

I have to admit, I have a hard time respecting women that don't respect themselves. I have a hard time respecting women who walk around showing their shit, doing whatever it takes to get the attention of guys. But it is because they don't respect themselves that I don't respect them. I don't care if they are just teases who don't go home with anyone, or if they fuck a different dude every weekend. Their sex life isn't what I judge them on. It's how they view themselves as human beings. Are they allowing themselves to be seen as nothing but a piece of meat? If so, I don't respect them, because they perpetuate views about women that say that we are just pieces of meat.. that our value is in our vaginas.

Yes. And once you take men out of them, sexual relationships become invisible and insignificant.

Thanks for commenting! I'm not trying to "teach" promiscuity into anyone---though wouldn't it be sweet if I was secretly attempting to build an anti-evolution slut army to defeat the forces homophobia? No, what I'm actually saying is that humans are a very diverse bunch, and no individual ought to be slut-shamed into denying who they are because they don't live up to some arbitrary standard of evolutionary fitness. And lets remember that sluts can be pretty evolutionarily fit, too! Birth control does a pretty good job for me of weeding out all the genetic material I don't want reproducing inside me.

You can argue that men and women all act the way that they do solely because of evolution. But when people don't conform to your particular interpretation of natural selection, they are not somehow "morally inferior" as a result---they are, however, pretty good evidence that your scientific theory is incomplete.

I actually think that acknowledging that women like to have sex will do a lot to help curb sexual assault. Under the current model, men are told to get sex, and women are told to avoid it. So, men are looking for sex from women who don't want it---hey, that's halfway to rape already! Under this charming scenario, even if a woman wants to have sex, she can't consent sex without facing social consequences. And if a woman DOESN'T want to have sex, a man is still encouraged to pursue it in order to avoid being called a pussy. That's where "seduction" begins to look a whole lot like sexual assault.

And yet, a lot of women DO like having sex! I know many of them! And only when this crazy phenomenon is considered perfectly normal can we get to a place where consent is truly valued.

Somes species have females who are promiscuous in the sense that they don't mate for life, they still also don't just mate with anybody.

The fact of sexual selection doesn't have a moral component, of course. Bone whoever. But that men carry millions of gametes and women carry considerably fewer (and much, much bigger) gametes is a fact that impacts our impulse to sex and the consequences of it. Society can choose to teach those instincts out of us, but how can we deny that they are there?

And there are social costs to both male and female promiscuity in society and segments of society that do not have the access to education that, say, magazine and blog editors have. That doesn't mean promiscuity should be discouraged by shaming women, but it does mean that without a highly effective and widely distributed regime of education about the potential perils of having sex with "whoever whenever", the incidences of STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and sexual violence against women will increase.