Comments on: Sexist Beatdown: Wherever to Ejaculate? Edition

By: Sasha

Sasha — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 06:14:14 +0000

While statistics don't lie, there's no doubt withdrawal seems to work for some people. My ex-husband pulled out the entire 4 years we were married and we never had an accident, or even a scare. That being said, I would hate for young people to think they do not need condoms by reading studies such as this.

Inexperienced people tend to be premature ejaculators and are probably the most likely to not get out in time. Withdrawal should only be used by couples who are stable and willing to deal with the consequences of a slip up.

By: ilya

ilya — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:43:06 +0000

I'm so conflicted! I'm definitely turned on by the idea of ejaculating outside of my gf's vagina but when the time comes, she pulls me in close and I inevitably ejaculate inside of her vagina (she has an IUD and we both claim to be in a long term monogamous relationship with each other). And it is so so satisfying, like that's what my body wants to do even though my mind wants to pull out. If she let me pull out I don't know that I would. Which brings me to a point in the post above in which we consider the "distractibility" of the man who is just about to ejaculate into his partner's vagina. I call bullshit on all men who were too "distracted" to pull out. I think it just feels so good to ejaculate inside a vagina and in a purely selfish move he decided to maximize his pleasure while ignoring the consequences of his purely selfish action.

By: Sexist Beatdown: We Love Everybody Edition! - The Sexist - Washington City Paper

Sexist Beatdown: We Love Everybody Edition! - The Sexist - Washington City Paper — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:29:51 +0000

[...] and I were all ready to administer another of our weekly smackdowns on a very important topic like pulling out, bitchy musicians, or Megan Fox’s fake boobies. But theeeeen, we both got the vapors in [...]

By: Sarah F

Sarah F — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 20:57:23 +0000

I'm so glad this information is being more widely published. I was on the pill for 3 years and was sick of the side effects, plus I didn't trust it anyway and used the withdrawal method too. So I stopped using the pill and tried condoms. That was horrible. It took tons of research to find the simple information that the withdrawal method does actually work by itself. I used it for years, in a monogamous relationship - it has no side effects, no cost, and is easy to stop using if you do want to get pregnant (which I was able to do the first month of trying).

There is a draw back for the man though. It is less satisfying to pull out. But the tiny violins will have to keep playing because for me, this is the best birth control method.

By: irvnrynn

irvnrynn — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:55:53 +0000

nice thing about dealing with a post-menopausal woman.. no more pregnancy concerns, and with a little bit of understanding, we can both have PMS and needn't call it that, but term it "old age" ~?

By: Sara

Sara — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 02:52:52 +0000

I'm glad someone is finally not stigmatizing my birth control method. Thank you for the great article!

By: ham

ham — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 19:09:17 +0000

The idea of pulling out an hour early is making me shake with laughter at work. Outside the margin of error, I suppose!

By: Ja

Ja — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 04:29:08 +0000

Is there ever a sentence that Sady doesn't exclaim?

By: Q™

Q™ — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 18:16:19 +0000

@kza, an HOUR early?!?! Some explaining may be necessary, LOL! Then there are men and women who are allergic to the rubber/latex.

By: kza

kza — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 20:24:13 +0000

My girlfriend hates condoms and won't go on birth control because she said it makes her fat. What do I do? I usually pull out an hour early because I am really not wanting a kid.

By: Liz Aiello

Liz Aiello — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 19:58:36 +0000

The study is true and accurate, but I certainly support your point making and wish you could emphasize it a bit more is the fact that condoms aren't really the best if your concerned about birth control. They're really the only way for STD prevention and since most frat guys don't get tested after withdrawing from their previous sorority girl fling, it's best to stick with the condoms. If you actually want birth control, get an IUD. 99.99% effective, Yay!

By: Dave

Dave — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 18:07:34 +0000

I had hoped the first hotlink would be about geographic location :(

By: Amanda Hess

Amanda Hess — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 14:00:33 +0000

Well, I'm more of an ejaculate expert myself, but this is what the NYT has to say: "The authors say there has been a bias against studying or legitimizing withdrawal, partly because of 'preference for modern methods and the strongly held belief that pre-ejaculate fluid contains sperm, despite the lack of supporting evidence.'" So Rachel K. Jones, at least, isn't buying the idea that pre-ejaculate contains sperm, but scientists are still kinda iffy on it. Heather Corinna over at Scarleteen gets a little bit more specific: "There's no 100% way to know at the time if pre-ejaculate contains sperm, but it's generally agreed upon that it is most likely or only likely to when a man has recently ejaculated and has not urinated afterwards (urine flushes the urethra out, removing traces of sperm). It's generally considered to be least likely to contain sperm when a man either hasn't ejaculated in a while and/or has recently urinated before he's pre-ejaculating." What can also be present in pre-ejaculate? HIV. The more you know, etc.

By: jules

jules — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 13:47:08 +0000

HOLY CRAP. My friends and I were just having this debate yesterday. Amanda, could you comment on pre-ejaculate?