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Date Rape Anthem: Whitest Kids You Know’s “We Gun Make Love”

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Date Rape Anthem: Whitest Kids You Know's "We Gun Make Love (Until You Wake Up)"

Relevant Lyrics:

We gon make love until you wake up
We gon make love until you wake up
We gon make love until you wake up
Girl I want you so bad I can’t get enough

Why It's So Rapey Unfunny: The Whitest Kids You Know, a popular American sketch comedy group, presents its rape jam in the form of cultural commentary. Lyrics like "even though you’s passed out / We can still have fun" and "Just bob your head with me / Ill bob your head / Here we go" are clearly attempts to satirize the rapey rap songs so popular with kids today. Add a completely zonked rape victim and copious amounts of date-rape drugs, and you've got the fixins for a hilarious viral rape video.

Because we're dealing with jokesters here, it's not enough for us to establish that the Date Rape Anthem is rapey; we must also establish that it's not funny. And this Date Rape Anthem is not funny. Here's why:

a. It's a fake rape video. So, that's working against it.

b. When I wrote about the Onion's many rape jokes, I established somewhat of a Rape Joke Litmus Test: If it makes fun of the way the media and popular culture mishandle rape, it could be funny; if it makes fun of rape, it probably won't be funny.

While this song intends to ridicule popular songs filled with rapey seduction tactics, I don't see a lot of spot-on cultural commentary here: I mostly just see some dude making fun of raping women. Over and over and over again.

c. While we're at it: When I say that "rape" isn't a joke, I mean that literally. "Rape—ha ha!" is not a sustainable comedic model for men and women past puberty, and repeating a rapey line 24 times over does not a satire make. If you're going to use rape as a springboard for your jokes, shouldn't you, like, write jokes?

d. I know the seduction of the passed-out rape victim is supposed to make me laugh, but I have this weird personal reaction to men seducing passed-out rape victims: They make me ill. The "she wanted it" looks she gives him before she passes out aren't helping.

e. From YouTube commenter hornetline: "haha, i found out about this video at my colleges orientation at a seminar about how to avoid date rape."  While it is almost funny to imagine how misguided this sexual assault primer must have been—make sure to cover your drinks, ladies, and you'll be good to go!—it's actually really depressing.

This song makes fun of rapists, sure—but it also severely warps date rape. The song implies that men who sexually assault women are entirely obvious about it. Observe how uproariously evil the Big Bad Rapists is! He pours cups full of white powder into his victim's drinks. He drags unconscious women off the dance floor to have sex with them. He does this all in public, in front of all the victim's friends and dozens of eye witnesses. In short, he acts nothing like a real rapist.

When presented with the Whitest Kinds You Know's version of a rapist, people laugh because he's so over-the-top terrible.  When presented with real rapists, however—your husband-rapists, your boyfriend-rapists, your third-date-rapists, your celebrity rapists—these people aren't laughing at him. They can't even recognize him. After all, if the alleged sexual assailant doesn't look like the Big Bad Rapist they're comfortable making jokes about, what's left to do but defend him?

  • kza

    Again calling Big Ben a rapist. He raped no one. Serial non-consent obtaining makerer-outer maybe. Raper no.

  • amellifera

    @kza
    What part of "He forced her on the bed and raped her as she continued to object, the suit said." do you not understand?

    Also, is it somehow okay to force yourself on someone else if there is no penis in an orifice?

    I ask because this is the 2nd comment you've made, and I really don't understand the point you're trying to make. "he raped no one." The lawsuit accuses him of raping her. "Serial non-consent obtaining..." no serial implied. and, if true, she clearly said no. So it isn't a matter of him not obtaining her consent but rather ignoring her non-consent. "makerer-outer maybe. Raper no." ummmm. at least in the last comment you used the phrase sexual assault. This is just.... weird.

    I'm not trying to say I think he did it. But why are you denying the facts of the case and attempting to turn it into something that doesn't sound as bad?

  • kza

    Ummm from what I've read I haven't seen the word. All she said was he kissed her. Both are aweful and wrong but one is worse by a lot.

    Also serial maker-outer isn't the most serious, joke-free thing I've even

  • kza

    http://www.nfl.com/news/story?id=09000d5d8116680b&template=without-video&confirm=true

    I looked on the internet for a story saying she was held down and raped but i couldn't. Maybe you're think of Kobe.

  • amellifera

    Perhaps you should read the link in the other article. And the articles pretty much everywhere else too, which I quoted before.

    “He forced her on the bed and raped her as she continued to object, the suit said."

    http://www.rgj.com/article/20090722/NEWS/907220417

    or you could go straight to the publicly available source: the lawsuit:
    "75. Plaintiff communicated her objection and lack of consent."

    and
    "78. Despite additional protests he kept going, pulled her underpants off and proceeded to penetrate her."

    then
    "82. Roethlisberger did "pull out" and ejaculated on her stomach."
    http://www.post-gazette.com/downloads/20090721_roethlisberger.pdf

  • amellifera

    My previous comment is awaiting moderation. I think maybe because I quoted the actual lawsuit, which includes some horrible language.

    Read it for yourself.
    http://www.post-gazette.com/downloads/20090721_roethlisberger.pdf

  • amellifera

    I want to add that I am not trying to crucify Ben. I have not formed a personal judgment. I have previously liked Ben (even though I'm a Broncos fan).

    I just find it incredibly frustrating the way society and the media deals with an alleged rape. The actual lawsuit is available online, but you were unable to find it in an internet search. The language of the lawsuit, particularly articles 78-83 make it very clear that she did not accuse him of merely kissing her against her wishes. Yet it's possible to miss this when reading about it.

  • kza

    Oops. I've read about this on a few sites and no one mentioned rape. The major outlets and the pretty independent sports blogs I read lack the whole rape part...which uh kinda seems like a big part. How could they not put that in the story?? I doubt many people are concerned enough to actually read pdf of the lawsuit. And if this is true, why is this only a civil matter? Press charges girl!

  • amellifera

    kza

    sorry, I hope I didn't come across as attacking you. I'm more upset by the way the media is handling all this.

    I mean, Google brings up an Examiner.com article (which, do they even get paid?) that actually asks if she's a "woman scorned." It's written by a woman, no less.

  • kza

    The media, in my experience doesn't normally protect athletes. Duke lacrosse, Kobe, and Pac-Man Jones. I'm not sure why they're letting Big Ben off the hook. I mean ESPN took 2 days to even report this even the Associated Press was. Even the blogs aren't covering the rape aspect.

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