The Sexist has been obsessively cataloging songs about rape for some time now, but so far we’ve only alighted upon one recent track that’s clearly against assault: Raveonette’s “Boys Who Rape (Shall All Be Destroyed).” I don’t have another anti-rape track for you, but I do have a cover of “Boys Who Rape”—this time sung by some boys.

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City Paper contributor Trey Graham subscribes to Living Social, a Web site that alerts him to daily deals in the D.C. area. Today—the first day that gay couples in D.C. can legally be married—LivingSocial offered Graham a very special discount at Too Hotties Haircuts, an Alexandria-based salon for “manly men” who aren’t into all that gay shit. The ad:

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A couple weeks ago on the Sexist, we discussed why wearing a short skirt is not an invitation to be raped. Still, doubts lingered. The two main arguments for why women must still protect themselves from rape by ditching the short skirt:

a) Rape is just one big misunderstanding. The proponents of this argument believe that women who wear short skirts are signaling that they are interested in sex. Therefore, rapists will naturally gravitate to these women and proceed to fuck them without their consent, because, hey—the skirt already gave them the go-ahead.

b) Short skirts are just too sexy to resist. According to this view, rapists are well aware that every woman in a miniskirt isn’t down to fuck. But they just can’t help themselves when they catch sight of those gams, so be a good girl and don’t tempt the rapist.

Let’s see if we can’t address both of these theories at once with the help of star commenter Frankie.

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Last month, I wrote a story about Jenn Thomas and Kevin Fox, two local teachers who have spent three and a half years fighting with the D.C. government to get their adopted son, Max, added to their health insurance plan.

The parents, who are insured through Fox’s D.C. Public Schools job, were repeatedly told by D.C. government reps that Max could not be added to the health insurance until they produced a Finalization of Adoption Decree from the courts—a document that wouldn’t exist until Max was 18 months old, and the family had already racked up thousands of dollars in regular newborn medical fees. Thomas and Fox countered that federal laws required D.C. to insure Max from the day they became financially responsible—his date of birth. They argued back and forth like this for years: Date of finalization, date of birth, date of finalization, date of birth. The D.C. government wouldn’t budge from its position, which one D.C. employee laid out for Thomas and Fox in an e-mail: “Adopted children are not treated as natural children.”

In reporting the story, I had a very simple request for the D.C. Department of Human Resources (DCHR): To produce the D.C. government’s policy for insuring adopted children.

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This Wednesday is National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, and since women now account for one-third of all new HIV cases in D.C. [PDF], well, it’s really important that we all become aware of this, post-haste! So this week, activists are hosting a variety of events around the D.C. area in an effort to encourage HIV prevention among women and girls. Even if you’re not a women’s health nerd like myself, the roster of activities may have something for you: Refreshments! Interactive Facebooking! A star of White Men Can’t Jump, after the jump!

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Readers, I get so many weird e-mails. So far, I’ve just been letting them accumulate in my in-box, never to be read again—even the ones with the attached shirtless photos. But now, it’s purge time.

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Last week on the Sexist, we discussed the contraceptive knowledge deficit among young men (and I got into the sex ed video business). Readers, bless ‘em, chimed in with more “magical” birth control theories they’ve heard over the years—from both men and women.

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This week was one of the Sexist’s most-read weeks ever. Thanks for the memories:

1. Rape Analogy: The Walking in a Bad-Neighborhood” Theory, in which fancy analogies will not disguise the fact that you’re blaming the victim.

2. To Avoid Funding Gay Marrieds, Catholic Charities Denies Benefits to All Spouses, in which God goes for the jugular.

3. Rubber Barons: Why Doesn’t Your Boyfriend Know Jack About Contraception?, in which vaginal rings are discovered via penis probe.

4. Would Your Boyfriend Be Pleased By Your Surprise Fetus?, in which your boyfriend is all like, “a baby on the way!” and you’re all like, “abortion appointment.”

5. D.C. Gay Marriage Day: The Happy Couples & The Smiling Bigots, in which even the spawn of Fred Phelps can’t dampen the day.

Photo via the Library of Congress

This video is extremely confusing to me. I am old.

Hooking up: We know it’s all the rage among kids these days! But for us Elderly Folk who are, like, three years out of college, questions remain.

For example: Sex is great and all, but wouldn’t girls be happier if they consumed several meals paid for by men who clearly only want to fuck them before they gave it up? Would girls be better off if they just stepped away from the blow job, twiddled their thumbs in their parent’s house, and waited until a suitor deigned to call? Hold on a second—don’t different girls want different things out of a relationship? But more importantly, will hooking up EAT THEIR BRAINS?

In this edition of Sexist Beatdown, these questions—and more!—will remain pretty much unanswered. But Sady Doyle of Tiger Beatdown and I will talk a lot about blow jobs, and other academic topics encompassed by the new field of Hook-Up Studies. Join us!

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Earlier this week, I asked you to give me your worst Relationship-Ending Line—that phrase uttered by your now-ex that foretold the final chapter of your relationship. As it turns out, ya’ll have dated people who have said some absurd shit, from the older professor who asked, “do you have anyone to read you love poetry?â€� to the boyfriend who admitted that he “was emotionally incapable of having a serious relationship with anyone who did not have a ‘go go dancer’s body.’”

The good news is that Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mindblowing Sex, which you stand to win for your trouble, contains plenty of information concerning masturbatory techniques. Your top 10 Relationship-Ending Lines, after the jump:

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