Comments on: Meet Your New Daddy http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/2008/08/15/meet-your-new-daddy/ 68.3 Square Miles of D.C. News and Opinion Tue, 14 Feb 2012 14:05:00 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Amanda Hess http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/2008/08/15/meet-your-new-daddy/comment-page-1/#comment-234439 Amanda Hess Fri, 15 Aug 2008 18:10:07 +0000 http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/?p=6357#comment-234439 I think the problem has less to do with race and more to do with your characterization of the lifestyles of both the unmarried and the "low income." With your assumption that low-income, unattached women (seems that you're conflating the two here) are incapable of "intentionally" having children, you call the kids whose neighborhood you've gentrified "mistakes." To think, if those women hadn't made so many "mistakes," you wouldn't have those darned kids interrupting you as you sit on your stoop, making lofty assumptions about the neighborhood that you live in. But all is not lost, poor, single gals - as long as you can snag a Prince Charming to help make all these childbearing decisions for you. I think the problem has less to do with race and more to do with your characterization of the lifestyles of both the unmarried and the "low income." With your assumption that low-income, unattached women (seems that you're conflating the two here) are incapable of "intentionally" having children, you call the kids whose neighborhood you've gentrified "mistakes." To think, if those women hadn't made so many "mistakes," you wouldn't have those darned kids interrupting you as you sit on your stoop, making lofty assumptions about the neighborhood that you live in. But all is not lost, poor, single gals - as long as you can snag a Prince Charming to help make all these childbearing decisions for you.

]]> By: Mike Riggs http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/2008/08/15/meet-your-new-daddy/comment-page-1/#comment-234387 Mike Riggs Fri, 15 Aug 2008 17:17:52 +0000 http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/?p=6357#comment-234387 To Single Mom By Choice, I used the word "some" intentionally. I don't think <em>all</em> of DC's moms (or all single moms elsewhere) should--or need to--find an in-house father figure for their kids. Many single moms do amazing jobs (mine included) without one, but for others, the socioeconomic realities aren't quite so...sunny. And I stand by the phrase "middle school misfits," and would've used it if the situation were reversed, and I had heard a group of white tweenage boys insulting a black man in a mostly-white neighborhood. I don't think it's crass or reactionary to assume that such attitudes are informed, at least in part, by what kids hear at home. To Single Mom By Choice,

I used the word "some" intentionally. I don't think all of DC's moms (or all single moms elsewhere) should--or need to--find an in-house father figure for their kids. Many single moms do amazing jobs (mine included) without one, but for others, the socioeconomic realities aren't quite so...sunny.

And I stand by the phrase "middle school misfits," and would've used it if the situation were reversed, and I had heard a group of white tweenage boys insulting a black man in a mostly-white neighborhood. I don't think it's crass or reactionary to assume that such attitudes are informed, at least in part, by what kids hear at home.

]]> By: Amanda Hess http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/2008/08/15/meet-your-new-daddy/comment-page-1/#comment-234324 Amanda Hess Fri, 15 Aug 2008 16:23:39 +0000 http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/?p=6357#comment-234324 woah, women intentionally having children outside of marriage? i think you just killed my grandmother, Riggs. woah, women intentionally having children outside of marriage? i think you just killed my grandmother, Riggs.

]]> By: Single Mom By Choice http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/2008/08/15/meet-your-new-daddy/comment-page-1/#comment-234307 Single Mom By Choice Fri, 15 Aug 2008 16:10:11 +0000 http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/?p=6357#comment-234307 Where do I even begin..."middle school misfits", "...births as intentional (i.e., the offspring of well-off domestic partners"...I could go on but the toxic fumes spewing from this article are coming through my computer screen and burning my eyes Where do I even begin..."middle school misfits", "...births as intentional (i.e., the offspring of well-off domestic partners"...I could go on but the toxic fumes spewing from this article are coming through my computer screen and burning my eyes

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