Facebook Vengence, Maybe Tempting But Bad Bad Bad
A young woman I’m acquainted with just started a Facebook group dedicated to outing her ex boyfriend as a lying cheating bastard. It’s called “I hate *** ***” and has five members so far. Now the scorned lady seems to have some good reasons for being upset with the guy in question, also an acquaintance of mine. He went on an exotic vacation with an ex, lied about it, reunited with the current girlfriend and then posted pics of the steamy trip (clear water, bikini, frolicking) on, you guessed it, Facebook.
She explains:
So, look I know this group is ridiculous and immature and really classless, but I just cannot get over how unfairly this ended. I am over ****, I’m just not over the disrespect, you know?
You don’t have to actually hate *** to join this group cause let’s face he is pretty adorable and he is pretty great to go to a party with.
The only intention of this group is that *** maybe has to endure a couple of awkward conversations. Like what if a bunch of people went up to *** and were like “You got [scorned lady] pregnant? What the fuck?” That would be a pretty fun conversation.
Anyway, yeah, I think there is beauty in the breakdown and I kinda’ just want to see what life is like if I live totally impulsively. Good things come from bad situations right? And, besides I am about as dramatic as it gets anyway. Me and Britney…
Yeah, well. I think only bad things can come from this situation. It isn’t very nice and it could lead to even less nice developments, for *** and the rest of us. If I were a lying, cheating bitch, I certainly wouldn’t want to be called out on the internet. What about false accusations? Maybe *** is really innocent. I think this is the bad ending I feared from another Facebook group scandal in Portland, Ore. My friend Beth wrote an awesome story about a group, called “Morgan Shaw-Fox is a Piece of Shit Rapist.” It concerned a student at Lewis & Clark college, who several people suspected of being a piece of shit rapist. Problem was, they didn’t go to the police first. Some of my friends thought the group was a good idea, a viable choice in a society where women’s claims of rape often don’t stand up in court. And that’s a good point. But I really, really think the whole rule of law thing is still more important. Right?
March 17th, 2008 at 3:33 pm
“I am over ****”: Obviously, not.
“The only intention of this group is that *** maybe has to endure a couple of awkward conversations”: Vigilante justice.
“Maybe *** is really innocent”: Well, probably not, but there are two sides to every story.
Bottom line: ***’s girlfriend sounds a bit of a crazy chick, *** should have known better than to mess with her. If I ever knew who these people were and ran into EITHER of them in the future, my assumption would be that she’s as much batshit crazy as he is a dick. Seriously, woman, get over it, move on, don’t give him the satisfaction of caring so much!
March 17th, 2008 at 4:00 pm
***** sounds like a d***. But if your friend really wants to get over being disrespected, she should f*** someone else really cool and hot and into her and start a Facebook group about THAT.
March 17th, 2008 at 5:11 pm
“My friend Beth wrote an awesome story about a group, called “Morgan Shaw-Fox is a Piece of Shit Rapist.”” Sure if your definition of a “awesome story” is calling students non-stop and harassing them to give you the story to a completely different article than you describe. If your definition of a “awesome story” is a poorly written, scandalous, and overly detailed account of this “supposed” rape. Especially if your definition includes something about how the students interviewed were completley lied to by this friend of yours to think that she was writing a piece that would talk more about date rape issues in general and serve up some sort of assistance to those who have had similar experiences, I don’t know, like talking to some professionals in Portland whose job it is to help those affected by date rape.
oh right, your friend works for that paper that serves really well as kitty litter box liner. Over dramatized, shock-sational piece oh crap. It is interesting that you advise against false accusations on the internet, but if your friend is involved and it is printed in a paper, then that’s ok.
March 17th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
Hmm, Chicken. That’s the first time I’ve heard of a journalist being criticized for including too many details.
March 17th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
“she should f*** someone else really cool and hot”
I’ve always loved that notion, cool and hot. That fundamental oxymoron that makes someone attractive. Isn’t that what we all want out of an SO? But wait a minute. Those hot and cool girls are crazy! One minute they can’t get enough of you, the next they act like they don’t know you…
Ok, the English language is now officially useless.
March 17th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
Angela- When the journalist sells a certain story to those involved to get them to comment, then prints a entirely different story, they have not only lied, but they open themselves up to criticism.
March 17th, 2008 at 7:42 pm
From your convoluted description, it sounds like this “steamy trip” took place at a time when this guy wasn’t even going out with your friend. I’d say she sounds pretty batshit crazy if she’s retaliating to this extent over “lying” rather than actual infidelity. This kind of thing never ends well.
March 17th, 2008 at 8:45 pm
yo, my dude gets that money. this chick is nuts!!!
March 18th, 2008 at 9:10 am
OMG THERE ARE ST00PID P30PL3 ON TEH INT3RN3T$!!!!
March 18th, 2008 at 11:07 am
Also, Angela … a commenter on DCist took about five minutes to find this group and other details about both of your friends, and then leave links. Will you feel responsible when all of this guy’s students end up finding out about this little matter, or will that just be “the Internet’s” fault?
March 18th, 2008 at 12:33 pm
dude. ****’s ex-girl is crazy. um, i’ve seen this firsthand. like, “go over to your ex’s house and trash his room while he’s not in it probably to the tune of alanis morissette’s ‘you oughta know’ crazy.”
March 18th, 2008 at 8:11 pm
“If I were a lying, cheating bitch,”…
aren’t you, though?
March 19th, 2008 at 1:10 am
yeah jay frah, homeboy makes it rain!!!!
March 19th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
Hopefully at some time during or after this woman’s inevitable breakdown, she will understand that “You never win when you take the low road.”
Kudo’s to the ex for ditching this clearly crazy person.
June 1st, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Are you guys fucking kidding me?
Why are we rallying behind a guy that totally cheated on some poor, innocent, and let me emphasis LITTLE girl. He’s sounds like a totally pathetic scumbag to me.
What kind of Georgetown professor dates girls that could be in his classroom?!
Ewww, the whole situation is so slimy.
I’ve met the guy a couple of times and I find him very repulsive, I hear he also dated a 17 year old!! FYI that’s illegal in most states! ah!
But, I think it’s awesome that the girlfriend didn’t just get back with him or pretend like nothing happened.
I heard about this story and I am so glad to have seen this blog and seen that it is true.I hope I someday run into the girlfriend.
What a dirtbag!