Cupcakes: Porn for Women? Also: Advice for an open marriage

Ever since hearing you say on your podcast that all men use porn, I have had a burning question: What about us women? If all men get a pass to have this whole other sex life, which is (mostly) external to their partnerships and is sexually satisfying, then I think all women should have a pass as well. Ideally, it would be a pass to enjoy something universally arousing to all women, something that would sexually satisfy us, but it wouldn’t be something that turns most men on, perhaps it might even repulse them.

If there were something that met my criteria, I wonder how it would play out in our relationships? Also, I am not sure what it could be, as women are a little bit more complicated. —Desires Erotic Balance

 

Something women enjoy but men do not...something erotic…a free pass for just the ladies…something that repulses most men…

Cupcakes?

The now-ubiquitous cupcake isn’t explicitly sexual, I realize, but our culture does encourage people—women in particular—to sublimate their erotic desires by stuffing their faces with food. And most of those squat, round, and pink-frosted things look, to my jaded eyes, like so many squat little cocks, DEB, so many growers-not-showers with pink sprinkles, and most of those cupcocks are inhaled by women. So, cupcakes.

But if cupcakes don’t do it for you, DEB, then how about a free pass to enjoy, eyedunno, maybe porn?

“We’re actually in the middle of a porn-for-women revolution as millions—yes, millions—of women are loudly, even proudly, proclaiming their interest in porn,” says Violet Blue, author, blogger, activist, and tireless foe of antiporn boneheads everywhere. If you were reading Blue’s blog, TinyNibbles.com, you would know that one out of every three consumers of Internet porn are female, according to a Nielsen NetRatings report released in 2007.

“What’s interesting isn’t just the growing number of women using porn,” says Blue, “it’s that they’re doing exactly what DEB suggests. It’s part of their own private sex lives that are mostly external to their relationships; they’re using porn as reliably as their favorite vibrators.”

What women have lacked up to now is the same “free pass” men enjoy.

“Guys are encouraged to have this other sex life with porn,” says Blue, “that’s seen as normal and healthy. But despite the numbers, our culture is having a hard time admitting that women like porn. Antiporn feminists ignore the female viewer. The only people, besides Oprah, acknowledging the female viewer are the antiporn Christians who see it (and female masturbation) as a disease they can cure!”

Blue directs female porn consumers to Our Porn, Ourselves (OurPornOurselves.org).

“On OPO, women are talking about liking all kinds of porn, even stuff that goes too far for some guys,” says Blue. “Women are making each other feel comfortable about their newfound access to porn, openly having their desire to watch sex (and jack off to it) validated the same way that guys do.” —Dan

 

I am a man who has been in an open marriage for 10 years. My wife dates men on her own, and I get to enjoy the occasional threesome with her and one of her partners. (We had no luck dating women or couples.) The problem is, she is clearly more interested in “her” dates than in “ours,” probably because the hotter guys are more interested in her alone than in us together. My wife is GGG, but it is hard for her to persuasively feign interest in the guys who are interested in us both. I can tell she would much rather be out on one of her dates. And it is frankly depressing to watch her go through the motions with one of “ours.”

Does being GGG require her to be a good actress, or does it require me to pretend that I believe her when she claims she enjoys the three-ways we have together? —Is This A Silly Problem?

 

This isn’t a silly problem, ITASP, not at all. Open relationships only work—closed relationships only work—when they make both people happy. You’re not happy, ITASP, which means your open relationship isn’t working.

Time to renegotiate terms.

Tell the wife to stop fucking other people for a while. (And, yes, you should have the authority to do that—both partners in an open relationship should be able to call a time-out.) If your wife balks, concede that there are lots of hot guys out there who want to fuck her and that you’re asking her to pass up on some opportunities for hot sex. Then remind her that you’re the guy she married, that you’re the guy she’s hoping will stick around once hot guys aren’t lining up to get in her pants anymore, and that there will still be hot guys out there who want to fuck a year from now.

While you’re not fucking other people, fuck each other, fuck a lot, work to reestablish your sexual connection.

Then when you’re ready to start fucking other people again—and you’re not ready until you’re both ready—your wife should agree that over the next year she will fuck only guys who are interested in fucking you both. That’s going to mean passing up on some hot guys who are only into her, of course, but that’s a sacrifice she should be willing to make in order to save her marriage. It also means that she’ll have to work harder to find hot guys who are into you both—do whatever you can to help—but she’s likelier to make that extra effort if it’s the only way she gets to fuck a hot guy who isn’t her husband.

Hopefully by the time your three-way-or-the-highway year is up, ITASP, you’ll have a few regular thirds on deck—hot guys who are into you both, guys your wife won’t have to pretend with—and then she can do some solo adventuring without shredding your self-esteem in the process. —Dan

 

What is your favorite kink? What fucked-up thing does Dan Savage get up to? —Nosy Reader

 

My kinks aren’t interesting, NR, and my marriage vows specifically forbid me from disclosing that sort of information.

Here’s something interesting: “A Palestinian man has been convicted of rape after having consensual sex with a woman who had believed him to be a fellow Jew,” the Guardian reported last week. After the dude “introduced himself as a Jewish bachelor seeking a serious relationship,” the two “had consensual sex in a nearby building.” The woman went to the cops to report that she had been raped only after she learned that the man wasn’t Jewish.

Now I don’t think there’s anything wrong with one-night stands, or with being a slut, or with fucking the shit out of a guy you’ve only just met (that’s how I met my husband), but I gotta say: When we have consensual sex with strangers—when we go home or to “a nearby building” with someone we’ve only just met—we’re not just taking a chance on a person we know very little about. We’re taking a chance on our own bullshit detectors. And no one’s bullshit detectors are 100 percent accurate. So someone who can’t bear the thought of accidentally fucking an Arab or a Republican or a married man or a guy who makes less than $250,000 a year really has no business fucking strangers. That person owes it to himself/herself to get to know people a bit better before visiting any nearby buildings with them.

Not because it’s OK to lie. But because people do lie. —Dan Savage

 

Send your Savage Love questions to mail@savagelove.net.

Our Readers Say

Great Article! Bubblesandwine.net is a good example of sites that focus on women. finally!
Women's porn habits often involve written rather than visual pornography, too. All those romances with explicit sex scenes, all the hot fanfiction on the internet, this is women enjoying their take on sexuality.

No cupcake beats that. *G*
I love the article. What are some good pornsites?
I call BULLSHIT on OPO!! Granted, it would have to be the most heavily monitored discussion board of all time but OPO has no discussion board! I have strong, important feelings about porn that I would like very much to discuss with other pro-porn women. A twitter feed that allows men and anti-porn chicks to participate ain't gonna cut it. You call that a "community"? That is just another blog-fest.
I got my wife a viberator even after she said No. She has used it, but not in my presence.

On a 3 some, I have talked with her many a times, and she says No as in No not NO.


Linnea Smith By Patricia Barrera

Linnea Smith is your average woman of the 90s. She has a satisfying family life, rewarding career in mental health and interests that include traveling with her husband, spending time with her daughters, babying her dogs and reading pornography. Yes...reading pornography--and using her professional skills and expanding international network to fight it. Like most of us, she never really thought about pornography as a critical social issue until a 1985 media conference where she learned about past and present research on pornographic materials. And what she learned shocked and angered her.


As a psychiatrist, feminist, and woman, she was well aware of the personal and societal consequences of battery, rape, and child sexual abuse. The results of the studies delivered at that fateful conference were an indictment to the connection of pornographic materials, both directly and indirectly, with these violent sex crimes. For Smith, pornography became an issue of public health and human rights that needed to be addressed.


As every critical thinker should, Smith went straight to the source to see for herself what was going on. She turned to Playboy, the nation's first pornography magazine to earn mainstream acceptance and support. By 1984 Playboy had 4.2 million subscribers, and was selling 1.9 million magazines at newsstands (Miller, 1984).


The results of her extensive investigation of the magazine (from the 1960s on) are presented in three brochures. "It's Not Child's Play" is a disturbing brochure that outlines the specific ways in which Playboy sexualizes small children and presents them as sexual targets for adult males in their magazine. The collection of cartoons and pictorials is damning, and made even more so when juxtaposed against pathetic statements made by Playboy representatives denying they ever used children in their publication. Smith very well could have called the brochure "Playboy Exposed".


Right alongside their claims that "Playboy never has, never will" publish such offensive imagery (Playboy, December, 1985), Smith placed pictures the magazine did indeed publish- of children in sexual encounters with adults and references to girl children as 'Playmate' material. In December of 1978, for example, Playboy published a picture of a five year old girl with the caption "my first topless picture," and in March of that same year published a cartoon in which Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz is pointing out the Lion, Scarecrow, and Tin Man to a police officer as having just raped her on the yellow brick road.


Smith did not limit her investigation to the use of children in Playboy. She found jokes about sexual harassment, abuse, manipulation, dehumanization and avoidance of intimacy by men toward their partners and callousness toward women in general, and the promotion of sexual conquest over women instead of sexual intimacy with a woman.


In another powerful and well documented brochure, "As Sex Education, Men's Magazines are Foul PLAY, BOYS!," Smith once again had Playboy do the talking for her. The brochure featured Playboy cartoons that dehumanized women like the one in which a man was shown holding a pornography magazine over his girlfriend's face and body as they are having sex (Playboy, August, 1974), and another featuring a taxidermist calling a man to come and pick up his wife, who had been stuffed (Playboy, April, 1995). Was she hunted down and killed, too?


Smith's brochures include extensive documentation and commentary by recognized scholars and researchers addressing the impact of pornography on our society. There are chilling statistics, like the finding that 100% of all high school aged males in one survey reported having read or looked at pornography, with the average age of viewing the first issue being 11 years old (Bryant, testimony to the Attorney General's Commission on Pornography Hearings, 1985).


In another study she lists, three per cent of the women in a random sample and 8.5 per cent in a survey of college undergraduate women reported being physically coerced into sex by someone inspired by pornography. Ten per cent of the nonstudent and 24 per cent of the student respondents answered yes to the question of whether they had ever been upset by someone trying to get them to do something out of a pornographic book, movie, or magazine (cited by Anderson in Lederer and Delgado, eds., 1995).


Also included is a study conducted by Mary Koss on 6,000 college students in which she found that men reporting behavior meeting legal definitions of rape were significantly more likely to be frequent readers of pornography magazines than those men who did not report engaging in such behavior (Koss and Dinero, 1989).

Smith is one of few people to expand her analysis of pornographic magazines to include the presence of drugs and alcohol, especially important today considering the almost epidemic level of drug and alcohol use by adults and teenagers in this country, Smith agrees that drugs and alcohol are contributing factors to high risk and coercive sex, and that the relationship between them within pornographic materials is an overlooked, and greatly needed, area of research.


As Smith explains " . . . No [other] reputable publication brought positive drug information within easy reach of juvenile (or adult) consumers. Since 1970, Playboy has been glamorizing intoxication as a mind-expanding, sexually-enhancing experience. It is difficult to conclude these magazines have not played a major role in popularizing 'recreational' drug consumption and the myth of its being fun, risk-free, and even sexy. What greater reinforcement for drug taking behavior than to eroticize it?"


In "Drug Coverage in Playboy Magazine," a brochure she developed for the NCAA (National Collegiate Athletic Association), Smith compiled a plethora of cartoons that favorably paired sex with drugs and alcohol. Cartoons, articles and columns advise readers on how to use drugs for sexual enhancement. References to negative effects were usually humorously presented and so, easily dismissed.


Playboy's depiction of underage users of drugs and alcohol even included their own version of the Official Boy Scout Handbook in (Playboy, August, 1984). Their suggestions for Scout Merit Badges included "Water Safety" for the scout who ordered his Johnnie Walker whiskey straight up, and "Free-Basing" for the scout who smoked cocaine. A similar feature in 1979 stated that "Today, 'boyhood fun' means cruising and scoring; overnight adventures' involve Ripple and car stripping; and 'survival skills include cocaine testing, bust evasion and cutting into gas lines" (Playboy, December, 1979).


Once Smith contacted the NCAA about her serious concerns, media attention and public scrutiny increased. Playboy denied any wrongdoing, claiming they were only reflecting a "major cultural phenomena", but they did scale back the more obvious pro-drug and alcohol features in the magazine. damage control campaign resulted in a politically correct editorial statement on the magazine's position on drug abuse in the May 1987 issue as well as a few anti-drug articles. To counter Smith's NCAA attempts, the magazine also courted collegiate sports information offices with a mass mailing of a hastily compiled slick, glossy booklet "The Dangers of Drugs", explaining their "real" position against substance abuse. However the magazine still includes covert messages glamorizing substance abuse and pairing sexualized alcohol consumption with easier prey. According to Smith, "we succeeded in exposing yet another dimension of the destructive nature of pornography, and, at the very least, cost Playboy some time and money."


It may also cost Playboy the niche they are trying to carve out for themselves in organized sports. Playboy's strategy for commercial success has been to include respected and well- known public figures in their magazine, an old tactic for aspiring to legitimacy. That way the magazine may be looked at as more of a credible news journal than just a porno rag. Readers too, can feel better about their consumption of pornographic pictures of women when they are "wrapped" in articles about current social issues. It made business sense to Playboy to seek out an alliance with athletes who, in some countries, are accorded hero status.


So they came up with an annual pre-season award for college level athletes and coaches, the Playboy All-America Award. The nominated players and coaches receive an all-expenses paid trip to a luxury resort for a weekend party, photo session and public relations blitz.


The team selection process is unorthodox at best. It is not a panel of sports officials but rather Photography Director Gary Cole, doubling as sports editor when needed, (Playboy, March, 1996, p.117) who chooses players and coaches for the award. The prerequisite is not athletic ability but rather who agrees to be photographed for the magazine. Again, a common tactic for legitimacy. Playboy rejects players unwilling to have their pictures associated with the magazine- -its content and underlying messages--and keeps making "awards" until the sufficient number of players and coaches agree to the photo sessions. The event hit some legal snafus as well. Complaints were officially lodged with the NCAA which included the presence of professional agents at the photo sessions. This charge, like the others, was also denied by the magazine in a letter to the NCAA.


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Psychologist Dr.William Marshall who treats rapists and child molesters says in his chapter The Link To Pornography that psychiatrist Dr.Linnea Smith sent me a photocopy of,from his book,Criminal Neglect Why Sex Offenders Go Free, that Studies by Dr.John Court found that in Australia Queensland did not allow easy distribution of pornography but South Australia allowed easy and accessible pornography.He compared the rape rate of 100,000 at risk for more than a 13 year period and found Queensland had no increase in their rape rate,but South Australia's rape rate increased 6 times! Dr.John Court also found that as constraints on the availability of pornography were lifted in Sweden,Denmark,Great Britain ,the United States,New Zealand and Australia the rates of rapes in those countries increased.


In 1974 when Hawai allowed easy availability to pornography the rape rates increased,then when they restricted it the rapes went down,then when they made it widely available again,the rape rate went up again,and back down again when they restricted it again.

Sociologists Larry Baron and Murray Straus also did a state-state circulation rate of pornographic magazine sales and the connection to states with the highest sales of these magazines including playboy and the rape rate in those states.And in Alaska and Nevada is where the pornographic magazines sold the highest,and those 2 states also had the highest rape rates compared to any other states.They repeated this study the next year and the findings were exactly the same,even when they controlled for other causes,and it was only sexual assault that increased not other crimes.


Pornography is extremely sexist and woman-hating and it teaches and normalizes sick distortions of women,men and sexuality,and it sexualizes male supremacy,sexist gender inequality,male dominance,women's subordination and submission to men,,male supremacy objectification and dehumanization of women as only sex objects to be used,ejac*lated all over,and disgarded, for men,often calls women woman-hating names like s***s,b******,and w***** and even male violence!


And because it sexualizes and normalizes all of these sick things and sexist injustices, and has been wrongly mainstreamed and made acceptable in a sexist sick woman-hating male dominated society,that created and normalized it in the first place,more women are sadly disturbingly being influenced to think this is what normal hetrosexuality is,and it teaches men that this is what women want and like, and that they want to be treated by them this way! Attitudes like yours really make any hope for change seem hopless!


Many men who used to use pornography when they were younger who are now anti-pornography anti-sexist anti-male violence educators include, former all star high school football player Jackson Katz who wrote the great important book,The Macho Paradox How Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help and he writes about how pornography sexualizes men's power,woman hatred,sexual objectification and dehumanization and subordination of women,and this is all connected to male violence,and gender inequality,and how the pornography industry has sold this woman-hatred and men's power as normal and liberating to the public.


Therapist Russ Funk who is a anti-racist,anti-sexist,anti-male violence educator has written books and articles on this as well and he had a chapter ,What Pornography Says About Me(n) in the book,Not For Sale:Feminists Resisting Prostitution & Pornography in which he said that when he used pornography he saw all women as just f***able even women he saw in classes,business coleagues and women on the street .He said being commited to justice and using pornography is inherently contradictory,because one can not look at others as fully equal,empowered,dynamic human beings if one is also looking at them through the pornographic gaze.


He also did a presentation in 2006 at The Center For Women Children and Families,Pornography What's The Harm? On his site it describes 3 workshops he presents to people on the harms of pornography.He also wrote a book in 1993,Stopping Rape:A Challenge For Men and he includes pornography as one of the causes of rape culture.

The important organization,Men Can Stop Rape also discusses and educates on how men's sexuality is socialized by pornography.

And Robert Jensen has written great articles and his important book,Getting Off Pornography And The End Of Masculinity.And Dr.Michael Flood's recent report is great too.John Stoltenberg's excellent 1989 book,Refusing To Be A Man Essays On Sex and Justice that consists of brilliant important speaches he made from the late 70's -the late 80's also discusses how pornography eroticizes and sexualizes male supremacy, sexism,woman hatred,violence,male dominance and female submission and subordination of women,and makes it feel and seem like sex to people and even makes sexism necessary for some people to have sexual feelings and arousal,keeps it this way, makes it the reality that people believe is true, and keeps people from knowing any other possibility.He co-founded Men Against Pornography In New York.

Paul Kivel who is the founder of The Oakland Men's Project in California who has been a long time anti-sexist,anti-racist,anti-male violence educator,also wrote about how harmful and sexist pornography is in his great important 1999 book,Boys Will Be Men Raising Our Sons For COURAGE,CARING,and COMMUNITY.

He writes that it is not surprising that an industry worth billions of dollars a year,which may be bigger than the record and movie industries combined,has developed many ways to justify it's existence and insinuate itself into mainstream male culture.

Paul then says that there are several books that describe in detail the harm pornography does to men as well as to women.He says these books listed in the bibliography,also contain descriptions of the pornography industry's efforts to suppress and disrupt people organizing against it.The books he lists are,Men Confront Pornography edited by Michael S.Kimmel,Making Violence Sexy:Feminist Views On Pornography by Dianna E.H.Russell,and Pornography:The Production and Consumption Of Inequality by Gail Dines et.al.

Paul also says in this book that talking to another adult can also help you decide if this is a situation in which you want to forbid the presence of porn in your house or if you just want to make it clear to your son how you fell about pornography but will let him decide what to do with the magazines or videos he has.He says in either case,it's important to find out your son's thoughts about pornography .He then says he may no little about the industry,it's exploitation in the production of pornography,or the effects on women,men,and their relationships when men use it.He says it might be useful,if you have the stomach for it,to look through some of the material with him and talk about what you see.



Brooklyn College psychology professor Dr.Robert Brannon was a co-chair with Phylis B.Frank for 20 years from 1990 of The New York NOW's Task Force on the harms of pornography,trafficking, and prostitution and he is co-founder of NOMAS National Organization For Men Against Sexism and he;s the organization's group leader of their Task Force on prostitution and pornography.THere islso a n excellent recent report by pro-feminist Australian gender studies and sociology professor Dr.Michael Flood,The Harms Of Pornography Exposure Among Children And Young People and he also includes a lot of great research studies about the effects on adult users.He explains that Adults also show an increase in behavioral agression following exposure to pornography including non-violent or violent depictions of sexual activity (but not nudity) with stronger effects for violent pornography.He has a lot of researchers as references.


Dr.Flood also then explains that in studies of pornography use in everyday life,men who are high frequency users of pornography and men who use 'hardcore',violent, or rape pornography are more likely than others to report that they would rape or sexually harass a woman if they knew they could get away with it.And they are more likely to actually perpetrate sexual coercion and agression.His reference for this is studies by psychologist Neil Malamuth et al 2000.Dr.Flood also says that perhaps the most troubling impact of pornography on children and young people is it's influence on sexual violence. And he then says that a wide range of studies of the effects of pornography have been conducted among young people age 18-25,as well as older polualtions.


He says across these,there is consistent and reliable evidence that exposure to pornography is related to male sexual aggression against women.This association is strongest for violent pornography and still reliable for non-violent pornography particularly for frequent users. His source is psychologist Neil Malamuth et al 2000.He also says that in experiemental studies adults show significant strengthening of attitudes supportive of sexual aggression following exposure to pornography.He then says the association between pornography and rape supportive attitudes is evident as a result of exposure to both non-violent (showing consenting sexual activity) and violent pornography while the latter results in significantly greater increase in violence-supportive attitudes.He also says exposure to sexually violent material increases male viewers acceptance of rape myths and erodes their empathy for victims of violence.


His source for this is Allen et al 1995.He explains adults also show an increase in behavioral aggression following exposure to pornography including non-violent or violent depictions of sexual activity(but not nudity) with stronger effects for violent pornography.Allen et al 1995.


He also explains there are many studies that show that teen boys who are frequent users of pornography more often sexually harass girls and believe it's perfectly OK to hold a girl down and force her to have sex.



Pornography's Effects on Adult and Child
By Victor B. Cline © by Victor B. Cline. Used by MHRF with permission. Table of Contents. Introduction. Defining Pornography and Obscenity. Effects on Adults ...... In my clinical practice, I have daily treated both children and adults ...
mentalhealthlibrary.info/library/.../victorcline/porneffect.htm

Pornography's Effects on Adults & Children (Research) - Full Article
Dr. Victor Cline tackles this controversy head on through a careful ... on the effects of pornography on children, adults, families, and social values. ...
pornharms.com/full_article.php?article_no=202







ANOTHER LOOK AT CENTERFOLDS

NOTE: This website contains material that may be offensive. All visuals are drawn from Playboy magazine. The purpose of this website is educational. Research in the field of sexual media indicates that the actual use of the material is far more effective than just text in relaying the covert messages and harmful implications of pornography. We have used the least explicit yet still representative examples.



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Child Magnets Help Attract a Young Audience

PART I PART II

Targeting Children is Big Bu$iness
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Soft Core's Hard Sell
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Sex with a Scorecard
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Is There Anything about Children NOT for Sale?
PART I PART II PART III

Youth Public Health Unzipped
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A Picture's Worth a Thousand Sexist Words

PART I PART II

The Pornography Party Line: Sexualizing Inequality, Teaching Contempt

PART I PART II


The Sexual Subordination of Women Puts Females at Greater Risk for Harassment, Manipulation, and Harm

PART I PART II PART III PART IV

Readers are Sexually Shortsheeted by Messages Devaluing Relationship, Intimacy and Partnership.

PART I PART II PART III


Soft Core is Costly "Speech" for a Free Society

PART I PART II PART III PART IV


"I Read Playboy for the Articles..." But Do You Get the Message?
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People Take Action: What YOU Can do

Beyond the Cost of Pornography



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College men’s exposure to pornography is nearly universal, with growing use rates nationwide. Substantial research documents the negative effects of mainstream, sadomasochistic, and rape pornography on men’s attitudes and behavior related to sexual assault. The present study surveyed 62% of the fraternity population at a Midwestern public university on their pornography use, bystander efficacy, and bystander willingness to help in potential rape situations. Results showed that men who use pornography are significantly less likely to intervene as a bystander, are more likely to rape, and are more likely to believe rape myths.


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I have only read the abstract of the article “Pornography and attitudes supporting violence against women: revisiting the relationship in nonexperimental studies.”

For more information about the relationship between pornography and child sexual exploitation see this bibliography from the Coalition to Prevent Child Sexual Exploitation.

Full citation and link to abstract on journal’s web site from SafetyLit after the jump.


Pornography and attitudes supporting violence against women: revisiting the relationship in nonexperimental studies.

Hald GM, Malamuth NM, Yuen C. Aggressive Behavior 2009; ePublished October 27, 2009.

Click here for the article.

(Copyright © 2009, John Wiley and Sons)

A meta-analysis was conducted to determine whether nonexperimental studies revealed an association between men’s pornography consumption and their attitudes supporting violence against women. The meta-analysis corrected problems with a previously published meta-analysis and added more recent findings. In contrast to the earlier meta-analysis, the current results showed an overall significant positive association between pornography use and attitudes supporting violence against women in nonexperimental studies. In addition, such attitudes were found to correlate significantly higher with the use of sexually violent pornography than with the use of nonviolent pornography, although the latter relationship was also found to be significant. The study resolves what appeared to be a troubling discordance in the literature on pornography and aggressive attitudes by showing that the conclusions from nonexperimental studies in the area are in fact fully consistent with those of their counterpart experimental studies. This finding has important implications for the overall literature on pornography and aggression.

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David S. Lee, MPH, is the Director of Prevention Services at the California Coalition Against Sexual Assault (CALCASA) where he provides training and technical assistance on prevention. David manages the national project Prevention Connection, an online community of violence against women prevention practitioners, funders, researchers and activists. For over 27 years David has worked in efforts to end domestic violence and sexual assault.

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Violent Environment

Porn Insidiously Devalues Women

by Barbara Kasper and Barbara Moore

Originally published in the October 27, 1994 Democrat and Chronicle (Rochester, NY)

There has been much discussion about the airing of the public access show on cable television called Life Without Shame. While many in our community do not want the show to air, there seems to be little we can do to stop it. There are so many rights in the way: the right to adult etertainment, the right to sexual expression, constitutional rights of free speech, and the rights of business owners.

One right which has been given little attention in this debate is human rights -- specifically the rights of women.

We feel that pornography is harmful to women and that as women we have the right to live in a society free of this harm. Pornography degrades women. It defines us through our body parts. It encourages self-hatred in women because we can never "measure up" to the women seen in pornography. We dare not grow old or become overweight. In pornography, women are rewarded for fulfilling males' fantasies -- being either the passive "good girl" or the insatiable whore.

More importantly, pornography frequently eroticizes violence. We do not believe that every man who watches Life Without Shame will become a rapist or beat his wife or girlfriend. However, we do feel that misogynistic sexual entertainment for men portrays the humiliation of women as "sexy" and presents women as two-dimensional beings.

In a world where women are being raped, stalked, beaten, and killed in epidemic proportions, pornography conditions too many men to "get off by putting women down." Eventually, viewing enough pornography can desensitize all of us so that we do not even question the devaluation of women in our society.

We believe that the number of rapes and assaults on women would be drastically reduced -- but not entirely eliminated -- if pornography were to disappear. We believe that pornography often serves as a cultural backdrop, if not actually a catalyst, for the sexual exploitation and abuse of women.

Pornography sells. Men spend more than $8 billion a year on pornography. What is sells is lies about women and their response to sex. Pornography frequently portrays women as mindless, childlike and submissive. We are "pets" or "playmates." Other forms of pornography depict women who enjoy being raped, spanked, tied up or mutilated.

Would there be any real need for debate if viewers of cable television were exposed to programming that featured the consistent abuse and humiliating of Jews, African Americans or the elderly? Would everyone who objected to such programming be encouraged to simply "change the channel"? Yet when women are the victims, issues surrounding censorship and First Amendment rights are raised impeding progress toward real solutions.

Many young males state that their first sexual experience was masturbating to pornography. Think of what this pornography then says to these men -- that women like to be treated like objects, treated with contempt, and enjoy eroticized violence. Women in pornography never say "no," or if they do, they don't really mean it. Women in porn are really men's property -- always available and ready. pornography, therefore, reinforces inequity in relationships. It is difficult to believe that men can use pornography and at the same time truly respect the women in their lives.

Far too many people believe that they have the right to control those to whom they feel superior. We know rape is not a crime of passion but rather an act of power and control. The same is true of domestic violence, sexual harassment and incest.

Who benefits from pornography? Who finances pornography? Who is behind the camera? Who buys it?

Who has the power?

We need to stop the lies that pornography tells about women and sex and tell the truth. The truth is that pornography supports a larger culture that hurts, exploits and discriminates against women. Unfortunately, far too often when we tell the truth we are accused of taking away rights. As Catherine MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin, who have written books against pornography, state: "Take away wrongful power and you will be accused of taking away rights. Often, this will be true because the law, under the guise of protecting rights, protects power."

Whose rights should take precedence? Is it the pornographers who produce Life Without Shame? Or is it the majority of us who want to live in a society which does not allow the subordination, degradation or violation of women?


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Column: Pornography: a vicious cycle
Dan Mollison

Updated: October 26th, 2005 - 12:00 AM
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What part of the entertainment industry is bigger than the NFL, the NBA and the MLB combined?



You guessed it - it's pornography. The porn industry has grown into a $10 billion a year business, with some of our nation's best-known corporations - including General Motors, AOL Time Warner, Marriott, Hilton and Westin - silently raking in big profits from pornography without mentioning it in their company records. Pornography has become so pervasive that in 2003, Americans spent more money on porn than they did on going to see Hollywood movies.



Even though pornography stretches into the homes of millions of Americans, we don't openly talk about it much. We're even less likely to discuss how those who use pornography - who are primarily men - might be affected by seeing these images. I recently had the opportunity to be part of such a discussion, and I came away from it with a new perspective on how the men in my life, including myself, have been impacted by our exposure to pornography. When men choose to use porn, their lives and relationships pay the price.



I was at Indiana University for a men's conference on sexual assault prevention last weekend, and we talked about pornography's influence on men. We focused on the type of pornography that is consumed the majority of the time, the graphic material that depicts a man - or men - sexually dominating a woman. These films usually include a standard series of sex acts including oral, vaginal and anal penetration, which are often performed while the men call the women by a multitude of derogatory names. While they're being penetrated, women are expected to say over and over again how much they like the sex. And when the man reaches orgasm, he will typically ejaculate on the woman's body, sometimes on her face.



These sex scenes convey to viewers the idea that women are not human but rather are objects to be used by men to satisfy male sexual desires. In order for a man to get pleasure from watching a woman being verbally, sexually and sometimes physically abused, he has to deny the woman's humanity. If he's thinking about the fact that this woman has the same feelings, relationships with loved ones, dreams and aspirations as his mother, his sisters and his female friends, there is no way he would be aroused by a scene in which a man treats a woman like garbage as he's penetrating her; he'd find it sickening. Pornography dehumanizes women, and when a man is exposed to it for a long period of time, it becomes easier for him to ignore the humanity of the women in his life.



One of the men at the conference shared how his past experiences with pornography have had a deep impact on his life. Like many of his peers, he was first exposed to pornography in middle school, years before he would have his first serious sexual experience with a woman. Pornography offered him a rare glimpse into the world of sex that nobody was talking about, and because he wasn't given accurate information about what sex was like, he started to believe that the acts he had been witnessing in pornography - of men sexually dominating women - is what sex is supposed to be. He then carried these beliefs into his romantic relationships, and caused his partners, and himself, a lot of undue grief.



This experience has become a downright common one for men, and it's truthfully a hard bind to be in. Pornography offers men a taste of something they can never have, a feeling of being completely in control. But when men return from these fantasies to a world that doesn't always go their way, they crave the feeling of being powerful even more; and they may even seek it out in their relationships.



To me, being a man means accepting that I won't always get my way in life. It's difficult to escape from the trap that pornography sets on men, but it will always be more satisfying - and more manly - to respect women, rather than use them.



Dan Mollison is a junior in LAS. His column appears every Wednesday. He can be reached at opinions@dailyillini.com.





http://www.enough.org/objects/justharmlessfun.pdf.


Page 1 Just Harmless Fun? Understanding the Impact of Pornography


All healthy men, ancient and modern, Eastern and Western, know there is acertain fury in sex that we cannot afford to inflame, and that a certain mystery and awe must ever surround it if we are to remain sane.G.K. Chesterton More and more we are asked to believe that pornography is merely harmless —adult entertainment.“ Polls show that most people don‘t buy that line, but where do you find the evidence (rather than just rhetoric) to demonstrate its impact? To answer that question, Enough Is Enough has prepared this Special Report to provide an up-to-date overview of the evidence of harm. We survey recent empirical research, media studies, experience of clinical psychologists and other compelling information, and we respond to many of the porn advocates sound-bites. Read the evidence and decide for yourself: is pornography —just harmless fun“? Should we be concerned about the increasing intrusion of pornography into our society? Interestingly, most people say —yes,“ according to surveys giving as much as 75% 1 or even 94%2 approval to pornography restrictions on the Internet.3 This report will review the evidence thatthese concerns are eminently justified.The advocates of pornography usually attribute such concerns to mere prudishness. Sex,however, is hardly just another appetite, like hunger for food. Our sexual appetites are a bit more complex than eating too much pizza, and the consequences of poor sexual decisions usually can‘t be fixed with two Alka-Seltzers.


Most adults can intuitively relate to G.K. Chesterton‘s wise caution above. Such shared experience isn‘t a bad place to start, remembering the observation of eminent jurist Mr. Justice Cardoza that —all laws in western civilization are guided by a robust common sense.“ In 1973,Supreme Court Chief Justice Warren Burger, after quoting Cardoza, went on to write:—The sum of experience including that of the past two decades affords an ample basisfor legislators to conclude that a sensitive, key relationship of human existence (central to family life, community welfare and the development of human personality) can be debased and distorted by crass commercialization of sex. Nothing in the Constitution prohibits a State from reaching such a conclusion and acting on it legislatively simply because there is no conclusive evidence or empirical data.“ 4 Law, however, is not the focus of this report. Rather, the focus is the considerable amount of work carried out since Justice Burger‘s day to better understand the impact of pornography.


Surveying the Evidence


A favorite tactic of pornography‘s advocates is to argue that it is —harmless fun,“ mere —adult entertainment.“ They would have us believe that any difference between Venus De Milo and Debbie Does Dallas is simply personal taste, not discernment. They like to challenge the publicto prove that pornography causes harm. Well, there is proof of harm. The best-kept secret about pornography is that it causes real harm to real people. Every Boy Scout knows that you can define any point on a map with two compass bearings from different perspectives: just draw the two cross-bearing lines on the map, and look where they intersect. In the case of pornography there are cross-bearings from many perspectives all intersecting at the point of harm. Each perspective is persuasive in its own right. Taken together, the evidence of harm is difficult to ignore. The different perspectives are:

1.Advertising

2.Impact of sexually-oriented businesses


3.Empirical research studies

4.Correlational studies

5.Media studies

6.Experience of clinical psychologists


7.Anecdotal evidence


This report will review each of these areas, then finally discuss factors particularly affecting children.


Advertising

It has been said that the most disingenuous argument in the pornography debate is that porn doesn‘t influence people. If images don‘t influence attitudes and behavior, how do we explain the existence of the advertising industry? Of course, none of us likes to admit we are influenced by advertising. Few proud car owners would say: —I bought my Volvo because their advertisements create an image of a thinking person‘s car, and that appeals to my ego.“ We value our self-image as rational beings and, as aresult, most of us are in denial about the influence of advertising.Those in the advertising business, however, know that images have impact. In 1997,America‘s top ten advertisers alone spent a total of $5.2 billion helping consumers part with their hard-earned cash.5 It might be nice to think that investments like Nike‘s Michael Jordan campaign are made out of blind hope, but market research predicts and confirms the impact of advertising. —The enormous advertising and marketing industries are built on the premise that the media do influence a wide range of behaviors.“ 6 To believe pornography does not impact attitudes and behavior is to believe we are not affected by what we see. Our collective state of denial of the impact of advertising illustrates that people can believe they are not affected. But the evidence illustrates how improbable thatwould be!To argue that advertising has no impact (as opposed to merely being blind to it) requires impressive faith that we invariably intercept and rationally defuse the power of suggestion inadvertising images. Oftentimes we do. But communications experts note that advertising works precisely because it appeals to human emotion rather than to rational considerations: —TV commercials do not use propositions to persuade; they use visual images…and only rarely…verifiable assertions. Therefore, commercials are not susceptible to logical analysis [and] are not refutable…It is not facts that are offered to the consumers but idols,to which both adults and children can attach themselves with equal devotion and without the burden of logic or verification.“7 If the effectiveness of advertising is based upon its appeal to emotion, do we really believe that pornography appeals to reason? Pornography, ultimately, is a form of advertising. (Can youspell —sex sells“?) Pornography advertises a particular view of human sexuality, as surely as the Marlboro Man conveys a particular image of a cigarette brand. The only question is: what brand of sexuality is pornography promoting?


The messages of pornography


The Hugh Hefners of the world sometimes describe their product as simply —the joys of consensual sexuality.“ The reality is much less elevated and considerably more one-sided.Studies indicate that individuals use pornography to inform and teach themselves about sexual behavior.8 So what does pornography teach? About sexuality:Scholars note that human sexuality in pornography is never more than physical, since—depictions of other basic aspects of human sexuality–such as communication between sexual partners, expressions of affection or emotion (except fear and lust)…and concernsabout …the consequences of sexual activities–are minimized.“9 Pornography advertises sex without relationships, without commitment, and especially,without consequences. How many porn videos include the resulting teenage pregnancy with the child-mother dropping out of school? Or catching human papilloma virus (HPV), leading to infertility or cervical cancer, or even catching AIDS?


About women:In the words of one academic study: —The characteristic portrayal of women in pornography [is] as socially nondiscriminating, as hysterically euphoric in response to just about any sexual or pseudosexual stimulation, and as eager to accommodate seemingly any and every sexual request.“10 Another study notes that women are depicted as —malleable,obsessed with sex, and willing to engage in any sexual act with any sexual partner.“11 Pornography presents women in stereotype, as insatiable sex machines to accommodate every possible sexual request. Women, it tells us, are here to please men, and if they say —no“ itis just token resistance. In pornography, the typical woman is always ready, available, and eager to please, unlike a real woman who might have inconvenient expectations of her own.


About men:In pornography, men are apparently here to have sex with as many women as possible.Marriage is either a hindrance to their purpose, or irrelevant because fidelity is abnormal and possibly unnatural. In pornography, men certainly don‘t value women for their minds, since they don‘t appear to have discovered that women have such a thing. False advertising? In our society, —the learning of sexual techniques and attitudes is too often left to chance,which may include such sources as X-rated video shops. As a result, a great number of people acquire faulty information and expectations that can impair their sexual enjoyment andadequacy.“12 The message of pornography is that sex is the only human activity where there is no such thing as a poor choice, and where there are no consequences to actions.Pornography‘s portrayal of human sexual behavior is so erroneous as to be fraudulent. Most obvious are the unrealistic body types, unrealistic sexual situations, and routinely multi-orgasmic sexual performances. More subtly, the most desirable sexual behaviors are depicted as excluding monogamy, fidelity, responsibility, commitment, or even an established relationship of any sort between partners. This stands in direct contrast to the most rewarding and satisfying sexual relationships in real life. In the most definitive scientific survey ever done on human sexual behavior,

The Enough Is Enough Report Is Excellent And Has A Lot Of Important Research Studies On Harms Of Pornography And It's Connections To Sexual Assaults And SExual Harassment But It's Too Long To POst The Whole Report On Here.
And a woman using and supporting pornography is really sick,disturbing and terrible! It's exactly like a Jew using and supporting Nazi pornography and Black people using and supporting Klu Klux Klan pornography! And a woman watching pornography with her boyfriend or husband is exactly the same as if a Jewish person watched Nazi pornography with their German or Christian lover,or a Black person watching Klu Klux Klan pornography with their white lover!


And you know what? If and when many of these fake "feminist" hypocrite traders,who use and support pornography, if either they,or their mother,daughter,sister,or friend gets sexually assaulted by men who use pornography and show it to them as part of the sexual abuse and refer to women
like they are portrayed in pornography,as nothing but cum eating sl*ts,wh*res and B*tches,and as nothing but openings to stick their penises into,and nothing but things to feel,f*ck,ejucaulate all over,and disgard,and they force them to do the things shown in pornography,(which has happened to many women and children !)and or they sexually harass them in the work place and hang up pornographic pictures and shove them in their faces,which has also happened to many women then they will wake up big time and be outraged about it!


































Anti Pornography: STUDY PROVES "PORNOGRAPHY IS HARMFUL"


Anti Pornography's Notes


STUDY PROVES "PORNOGRAPHY IS HARMFUL" 2002

Monday, July 13, 2009 at 7:40am

A new study has found that viewing pornography is harmful to the viewer and society. In a meta-analysis (a statistical integration of all existing scientific data), researchers have found that using pornographic materials leads to several behavioral, psychological and social problems.


One of the most common psychological problems is a deviant attitude towards intimate relationships such as perceptions of sexual dominance, submissiveness, sex role stereotyping or viewing persons as sexual objects. Behavioral problems include fetishes and excessive or ritualistic masturbation. Sexual aggressiveness, sexually hostile and violent behaviours are social problems as well as individual problems that are linked to pornography.


"Our findings are very alarming", said Dr. Claudio Violato one of the co-authors of the study. Dr. Violato, Director of Research at the National Foundation for Family Research and Education (NFFRE) and a professor at the University of Calgary, said "This is a very serious social problem since pornography is so widespread nowadays and easily accessible on the internet, television, videos and print materials".

Studies have shown that almost all men and most women have been exposed to pornography. An increasing number of children are also being exposed to explicitly sexual materials through mass media. The rise in sexual crimes, sexual dysfunction and family breakdown may be linked to the increased availability and use of pornography. The rape myth (belief that women cause and enjoy rape, and that rapists are normal) is very widespread in habitual male users of pornography according to the study.

"There has been some debate among researchers about the degree of negative consequences of habitual use of pornography, but we feel confident in our findings that pornography is harmful", Violato noted. "Our study involved more than 12,000 participants and very rigorous analyses. I can think of no beneficial effects of pornography whatsoever. As a society we need to move towards eradicating it".

The authors of the study concluded that exposure to pornography puts viewers at increased risk for developing sexually deviant tendencies, committing sexual offences, experiencing difficulties in intimate relationships, and accepting of the rape myth. Dr. Elizabeth Oddone-Paolucci and Dr. Mark Genuis, researchers at the National Foundation for Family Research and Education, are co-authors of the study that was published in the scientific journal Mind, Medicine and Adolescence.






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Well, you know what? If and when many of these fake "feminist" hypocrite traders,who use and support pornography,either they,are their mother,daughter,sister,or friend gets sexually assaulted by men who use pornography and show it to them as part of the sexual abuse and refer to women
like they are portrayed in pornography,as nothing but cum eating sl*ts,wh*res and B*tches,and as nothing but openings to stick their penises into,and nothing but things to feel,f*ck,ejucaulate all over,and disgard,and they force them to do the things shown in pornography,(which has happened to many women and children !)and or they sexually harass them in the work place and hang up pornographic pictures and shove them in their faces,which has also happened to many women( ) then they will wake up big time and be outraged about it!




































































































In the October 1987 American Psychologist, which is The American Psychological Association's journal,called,Report of The Surgeon General's Workshop on Pornography and Public Health, the then surgeon General Dr.C.Everett Koop wrote after exaiming the health and safety implications of pornography,"I am certain that pornography that portays sexual aggression as pleasurable for the victim is at the root of much of the rape that occurs today.Impressionable men,many of them still in adolescence,see this matarial and get the impression that women like to be hurt,humilated and forced to do things they do not want to do.It is a false and vicious stereotype that leads to much pain and even death for victimized women."
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Also Psychiatrist William Marshall found that in a study of convicted rapists 86% were regular users of pornography and 57% admitted they imitated their favorite scenes from pornography in the commiting of their rapes and that many had used pornography immediately before at least one of their crimes. He also found in a study of child sex abusers in Ontario Canada,that 87% of molesters of girls and 77% of molesters of boys were regular users of hard-core pornography.


Also Dr.Gene Abel found that more than 50% of sex offenders used pornography,and that the rapists and child molesters who used it were less able to control their sexually abusive deviant behavior than those who did not.Psychiatrist William Marshall found that in a study of outpatient sex offenders treated over a six year period 86% of the rapists were regular users of pornography and 57% imitated pornographic scenes they enjoyed in commiting their rapes used pornography immediately before at least one of their crimes.Rhea Becker from the sadly former Women's Alliance Against Pornography Education Project in Cambridge,sent me a lot of research on the harms of pornography back in December 1990.Also he found in a study of child molesters in prision in Ontario Canada 77% of those who molested boys and 87% who molested girls were regular users of harc-core pornography.


One of the things she sent me included information that North Carolina State Representavie Richard Wright-Democrat,while announcing enactment of anti-pornography legislation he sponsored,cited a N.C. State Police study which found:defendants in 75% of the violent sex crimes in the state"had some kind of hard-core pornographic material" in their homes or vechicles."I'm talking about S&M (sadistic & masochistic) material,bondage he said,that came from The New York Times 1/26/86 & 10/13/85;The Virginian Pilot 10/20/85 and the articles were contributed by Alexandra Bassil,Ray Lynn Oliver;Barbara Sparrow.


Also included,was information about interviews with 50 Boston women who had been victims of marital rape,nearly 10% of their husbands were obssed with pornography;wanted their wives to help them make it.Many could only get aroused by staging a rape.''There was a sense that many of these men needed violence or strugle in order to have sex.They found the humiliation very stimulating.The women felt as though they were being used as masturbatory objects.There was a definite sadistic component to some."Approximately 45% of the rapes were categorized as "Battering rapes"- Address to the NY County Lawyer's Assoc.by David Finkelhor,Ph.D Associate Director-Family Violence Research Program,University of New Hampshire



The information also included a study conducted by the Michigan State Police in which 38,000 sexual assaults from 1956 to 1979 were analyzed found that in at least 41% of those crimes,pornography was used or imitated just prior to or during the act this came from Ladies Home Journal October 1985.The information Rhea sent me also included that a study of 36 convicted sexually oriented murderers/serial killers,found the single most common trait amongst them was 81% listed their primary sexual interest as pornography,71% voyeurism.The study's objective,conducted by the FBI's behavioral science unit in Quantico,Virginia,was to develop a psychological profile on sex killers in order to track them faster.The researchers concluded,after interviews with the 36 who collectively provided information on 1,188 murders,that the killers were characteristically immeresed in fantasy,this came from NY Daily News 6/26/85 and This World 7/14/85.



Feminist psychologist Phyllis Chesler says in her book,Patriarchy:Notes Of An Expert Witness that serial killers are obessed with pornography and woman hatred and sexually use their victims both before and after killing them,and she said most wife beaters,pedaphiles,rapists and serial killers of women are addicted to pornography.Nobody would need to do studies to prove that racist and anti-semetic pornography is very harmful to Blacks and Jews and it would never have been made so mainstreamed and acceptable!




Pornography and Rape Culture

Question: Pornography helps to create a rape culture.

Results:

Strongly agree 35.4%

Agree 22.7%

Some pornography does 18.8%

Disagree 11.0%

Strongly Disagree 8.4%

I have no idea 3.6%

Responses: 308


The results of this poll do not necessarily reflect the opinions of Men Can Stop Rape. The results are not scientific and solely reflect the opinions of those Internet users who have participated.





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Part of A Longer Article That Is Too Long To Post The Whole Thing,But Evan Says At The End Is Pornography Misogynistic? And He says how could it not be,pornography comes from a society that breeds misogyny.


salon.com Health & Body Jan. 18, 2000


URL: http://www.salon.com/health/sex/urge/2000/01/18/hustler

Maxed out

Max Hardcore and other XXX pornographers awakened something dark in me. Or perhaps it was already there.


By Evan Wright


In 1995 I became a pornographer. Hired as the entertainment editor for Hustler magazine, I'd achieved something most considered to be dubious at best. A feminist friend compared my job working for Larry Flynt to being a propaganda minister for Hitler. According to her argument, I was promulgating a misogynistic agenda almost as brutal as anti-Semitism.


In college I had been exposed to similar extremes of feminist thought. Catharine MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin advanced critiques of power and gender that suggested buying a Playboy was an act of aggression tantamount to rape. But by the time I worked at Hustler, the public -- at least segments of it -- was flirting with the notion that porn might be chic. Where I lived in Los Angeles, high-school girls strolled Melrose Avenue in baby T-shirts displaying the "Porn Star" label. Howard Stern brought porn stars into millions of peoples' lives every morning when they appeared as guests on his show.


Pornography had also become a hot topic in highbrow glossy publications such as the New Yorker and Esquire. The basic question of whether pornography is misogynous was brushed aside by most who brought the subject into mainstream media. Magazine stories about porn stars, Hollywood movies about the industry or Wall Street Journal articles about the immense profits made by Internet porn tycoons seldom mentioned the content of the adult industry's main product, porn videos. Much of the public discussion about porn is like a wine tasting at which no wine is served.


As Hustler's main XXX-film critic, I watched hundreds of adult videos. The debate on porn was never abstract for me. Pornography was my life. Not only did I review the videos, but I wrote copy for several of Larry Flynt's magazines, became friends with performers and directors, visited porn sets and wrote scripts for XXX films.


There was an absurd component to my work. The Hustler rating standard is a graphic of a penis, which ranges from fully erect to totally limp, depending on the quality of the film being reviewed. "Porn critic" is perhaps the most ludicrous job title I will ever have. Aside from the ridiculous nature of my job, I was often profoundly disturbed by the aggressively anti-female tone of the films I reviewed. None was more misogynist than those put out by a director and performer who called himself Max Hardcore.


Max Hardcore, who releases nearly two dozen videos every year, is a somewhat out-of-shape, balding middle-age man, with baby-blue eyes and a twangy, Midwestern accent. His trademark is the cowboy hat he wears in every scene. He wears the hat even after his clothes come off. Max refers to his female co-stars as "victims." He dresses them in schoolgirl skirts, ankle socks, pink ribbons and pigtails. They skip into their scenes like little girls. Max pursues them, abducts them, tortures them and more or less rapes them.


Rape is an inflammatory word, especially with respect to the adult industry. Actual depiction of rape may result in an obscenity trial and a prison term for the videomaker. Pornographers such as Max get around the rape issue by ensuring that at some point the female starlet verbally consents to whatever is going on. A typical Max Hardcore scene looks like a rape. A girl is pursued and captured. She cringes and cowers; Max yanks her by the pigtails and slaps her around. But it is not rape, because she tells us it isn't. Images battle with words. Turn the sound down, and it is a rape.


All Max Hardcore lovemaking scenes present images that occur again and again. These are rituals of degradation. Max orally copulates with his co-stars until they gag (performers often vomit during the making of his films, a bit of cin�ma v�rit� that is cut from the final product). He calls his form of oral sex "choke-f*cking." His camera lavishes the viewer with extended close-ups of teary-eyed girls drooling over his penis. In most of Max's videos, vaginas are probed with a camera mounted on a speculum, the medical instrument used by gynecologists to spread vaginal walls open for examination. Anal intercourse is always the finale of a Max Hardcore scene. This often begins with a ritual in which Max turns the woman over and draws a mouth on her anus with a lipstick. Max is famous for concluding his scenes with a set-piece where he inserts a Sharpie pen in the performer's rectum and has her write "I am a little f*ck hole" on a sheet of paper.


Initially, I reviewed Max's videos because he was so popular. He has sold hundreds of thousands of videos in the past decade. He is popular in Europe and South America; French film crews often encamp at his L.A. home, which he calls the "Chateaux Max," and feature him in documentaries on French television. Whenever I was with him in public, Max was continuously accosted by fans. Many of these fans were women.


What troubled me personally about Max's videos was the fact that they made me laugh. They struck me as sick and cruel slapstick, sort of like X-rated versions of "Three Stooges" movies (which also had seriously disturbed me when I watched them as a child). I couldn't escape the fact that I enjoyed watching him trash women, that my laughter was somehow cathartic. Why?


Max's films never seemed to me to be about sex. They dwell on imagery that is so surreal (i.e., lips painted on an anus) and anatomically obsessive (i.e., pulsating vaginal walls), that they veer into a realm that is wholly unerotic. They are psychodramas of rage directed at feminine beauty. The apotheosis of this rage was, in my mind, Max's use of a woman's prime tool of beauty enhancement, the lipstick, to degrade her. Lipstick symbolizes the power of feminine beauty. In the pre-women's lib era, lipstick was often characterized as a weapon in the arsenal of tools used by women to dominate men with their sexual allure. Max takes that weapon and turns it on the woman, rather like stabbing Rambo with his own knife.


No doubt there are myriad personal reasons why some men hate women. So far as I could tell, I hadn't been drawn to Hustler and the adult industry out of enmity toward the opposite sex. What Hustler appealed to most on a personal level was my anti-authoritarianism. I enjoyed the fact that Hustler and the name Larry Flynt pissed off moralists and religious leaders. I was proud to work for a magazine that had been sued by Jerry Falwell and had helped expose moral hypocrisy in our national leadership. I had never considered that my involvement with the industry was fed by personal misogyny. Yet there I was on some level rooting for Max Hardcore when I reviewed his videos.






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Rape: What We Can Do



Jack C. Straton
C/o University Studies
Portland State University
Portland, OR, 97207-0751

· Work towards creating a coordinated community response to sexual violence ·

Demand that the criminal justice system arrest, prosecute and convict men who rape including acquaintance, date, and marital rapists ·

Support school-based education efforts about sexual violence. · Increase sensitivity and accountability to victim/survivors and their advocates ·

Support survivor services with money and/or volunteering. ·

Believe survivors stories. Rape is falsely reported 2% of the time, the same as for other violent crimes ·

Don't engage in victim blaming or tolerate it from others. ·

Don't insist that survivors report, or not report the rape; educate ourselves about options for survivors and share that information with them. ·

Care about, listen to and support survivors. · Work on eradicating all forms of oppression (sexism, racism, homophobia, etc.). No one is free when others are oppressed.

Rape and Rape Related Behaviors :

· Sexual Harassment: The main purpose of sexual harassment is to exert men's power over women; that power is backed up by the threat of rape. Sexual harassment is experienced by approximately 85% of women in the work-force.

· Date Rape: Almost half of rape is date rape; date rapists are seldom arrested. It is rare for men to be prosecuted for date rape- more rare to be convicted. Repeatedly we are learning that the more a woman knows the rapist, the less likely she is to report the incident(s) to anyone-let alone the police.

· Marital Rape: Marital rape happens in one of every seven marriages. 59% of battered women are raped by their abusers. Oregon was the first state to pass a law against marrital rape, but it has been tragically underused .

· Incest/Child Sexual Abuse: One in three girls and one in six or seven boys are sexually abused before their eighteenth birthday. The vast majority of perpetrators are men; few suffer any negative consequences for their actions.

· Prostitution: One cannot buy sexual consent. Prostitution is bought and sold rape, not a "victimless crime." Women trapped in systems of prostitution are raped (by the legal definition) more often than any other group of women. They report even less frequently than women who are not prostituted. The rapist of prostituted women is even less likely to suffer any negative consequences.

· Pornography: Pornography is pictures of prostitution; it eroticizes inequality and often portrays women enjoying rape. Always, it is degrading and dehumanizing. Many young men have their first sexual experience with pornography. Pornography plays a huge part in the construction of male sexual identity; it socializes men to sexually objectify, sexually harass and rape.

· The Military: Sexual harassment and Tailhook, rape and Okinawa, higher rates of battering and marital rape than the general population, prostitution/ pornography, rape as a weapon of war, and male bonding run rampant in the military which epitomizes the manhood training and gender relations of male supremacy. .

Why Most Women Don't Report:

There are many reasons why rape is one of the most unreported crimes; they include

· the fear of retaliation

· the fear of police and the legal system (sometimes described as being "raped again.")

· she's been socialized to feel partly to blame for the rape

· She may feel she can not endure the grueling legal process

· She may feel she will be blamed by others for what happened to her

· She may think that the legal system will not choose to prosecute because she knew him, she was drinking, she was being prostituted, etc.

For Survivors of Rape

· Whatever you did to survive was exactly right.

· Individual counseling and support groups are available.

· You don't have to report if you do not want to.

· Victims of Crime assistance money may be available.

· Build a support network.

· Learn about rape trauma syndrome and how it impacts you; learn what your triggers are.

· It's not your fault; no matter what the circumstances, you didn't deserve what happened to you.

· You can file a civil suit.

· You may file a third-party report.

· Common emotional responses to rape include sleeplessness, lack of concentration, eating disorders, nightmares, fear, loss of self-confidence, stress related illness, feelings of grief and despair and others.



for more information contact:

Some ways men can take responsibility in their personal lives to help stop rape are:

· ensuring through direct communication that all the sexual activity they participate in is truly consensual

· ensuring that survivor service organizations have the funding to stay open... give money! volunteer!

· actively and caringly supporting rape survivors

· not engaging in prostitution

· not using pornography or tolerating its display in the workplace

· never sexually harassing women or tolerating sexual harassment by other men.

· interrupting sexist jokes and comments, not bonding with other men by putting women down.

· teaching and role-modeling for young men respectful treatment of women as their equals

· exposing the connections between sexism, racism, homophobia and other expressions of oppression in the ways they all support rape culture.

for more information contact:

RAPE PROTEST

We are here today to draw attention to the pervasive problem of rape in our society and the failure of our communities and our criminal justice system to adequately address that problem.

1 in 4 women will be raped during her lifetime.

73% of women limit the places they will go because of fear of rape.

84% of rapes are committed by someone known by the victim/survivor.

2000 rapes are reported in the U.S. each day.

Only 1 of every 10 rapes is reported.

Approximately 2% of rapists are convicted of rape.

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Jack Straton earned a Bachelor of Fine Arts degree in photography from the University of Oregon in 1977, worked as a professional jazz drummer for three years, and then returned to the U of O in the 1980s to earn a doctorate in quantum theory. Both as a volunteer and professional diversity trainer over the past 18 years, he has presented several hundred workshops on ending sexual assault and racism. Jack founded Men Against Rape groups in Eugene, Oregon, Washington, D.C., and Manhattan, Kansas. He has published extensively in professional journals from his research in Quantum Scattering Theory, Gender Equity, and Diversity Training Methods. He has served as co-chair of the National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) and, as coordinator of the NOMAS Task Group on Child Custody Issues, is recognized as one of the leading writers and speakers in the country with expertise on ethical and public policy issues related to the overlap between child custody, child abuse, and woman abuse.



Jack has been teaching Inquiry courses at PSU since 1995, currently Popular Culture and Pathways to Sustainability and Justice, always seeking to infuse them with creativity, interdisciplinary experience, and interpersonal connection.



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6812, Since you

Posted by gaspee on Sat Mar-31-07 08:28 AM



warning for frank language.

Seem to think only people who have seen a lot of porn are qualified to speak, I might meet your qualifications. I've watched a lot of porn. I used to have no problem with porn. I *write* erotica for a few online magazines. A few years ago, I got so disgusted by het porn that I've never watched it again. I will watch gay porn, either m/m or made for *women* f/f. I won't watch made for men f/f.


porn is degrading to women. Period. Mainstream porn, especailly. I've watched a lot of it over the years. I'm no spring chicken. I don't have a problem watching m/m porn. Funny, that. Know why? because I don't take it personally when men are treated like a f*ck hole. Hmmm... I think I'm onto why most men don't have a problem watching women turned into nothing but a place to stick their d*ck.


When watching for what passes as mainstream porn these days, I get sick to my stomach. Anal, face f*cking to the point where the poor girl is next to vomiting, slapping, demeaning talk. it's all there in mainstream porn. Why men are so turned on by anal in het porn has always been a mystery to me. Why women do it is another mystery. I can get why men have anal sex. Women do it because men want them to.


What makes me the most sick is the look in the girls', oh sorry, *actresses*, eyes. It f*cking kills me these days, which is why I don't watch het porn any more.


And I'm speaking as someone who has seen a lot of it.

Now put on some Bel Ami stuff and my girlfriend and I are quite happy. Why? Watch it sometime, then watch the current top five or ten selling het porn titles and I think you'll see the difference. And if you don't, that's a little scary.


And to continually say that het porn "isn't like that" and looking at the top selling and rented titles makes me think you are being disingenious or in plain old denial.Because the most popular het porn is like that.


And someone doesn't have to watch a lot of porn to see just how degrading to women it is. One or two mainstream het movies should do that pretty darn quick.




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6835, Hmmm, no response to your post. Wonder why?


Posted by Morgana LaFey on Wed Apr-04-07 10:14 PM


And someone doesn't have to watch a lot of porn to see just how degrading to women it is.

Yup.

and:

I don't have a problem watching m/m porn. Funny, that. Know why? because I don't take it personally when men are treated like a f*ck hole. Hmmm... I think I'm onto why most men don't have a problem watching women turned into nothing but a place to stick their d*ck.'


Especially when they've been taught and continously reassured that women LIKE that, or if they don't something's wrong with them.






In 1994 I wrote to psychiatrist Dr.Linnea Smith(who has an excellent informative site on the harms of pornography including Playboy) about my experience and the harms of pornography. She wrote me back a very nice note and thanked me for my important efforts to educate people on the harms of porn and she said it's especially difficult because the public is desensitized and the media is reluctant to criticize other media especially sexually expllicit media. She sent me two huge folders full of important information on the harms including Playboy cartoons of women being sexually harassed in the workplace by their male bosses and child abuse cartoons!


One of the many things she sent me was a transcribed lecture by forensic psychiatrist and law professor Dr.Park Elliott Dietz, and this lecture was given before the National Conference of State Legislators on August 5 1986 and was videotaped by C-Span. Dr. Dietz served as a commissioner on the Attorney General's Commission on Pornography. He was professor of law,professor of Behavioral Medicine and Psychiatry,and Medical Director of The Institute of Law,Psychiatry and Medical Director of The Institute of Law,Psychiatry and Public Policy at The University of Virginia School of Law and School of Medicine.



He gave many examples of women and children's testimonies who were sexually abused by men who used pornography,and also women who were sexually harassed on the job with pornographic pictures hung up on the walls and shown to them. He said he only used a small sample of the 1000's of women and children who testified. He says many times that pornography is a health problem and human rights issue and he said one of the reasons is because so much of it teaches false,misleading,and even dangerous information about human sexuality.



This is what he said a person would learn about sexuality from pornography, "A person who learned about human sexuality in the "adults only" pornography outlets of America would be a person,who had never conceived of a man and woman marrying or even falling in love before having intercourse,who had never conceived of two people making love in privacy without guilt or fear of discovery,who had never conceived of tender foreplay,who had never conceived of vaginal intercourse with ejaculation during intromission,and who had never conceived of procreation as a purpose of sexual union.,



Instead,such a person would be one who had learned that sex at home meant sex with one's children,stepchildren,parents,stepparents,siblings,cousins,nephews,nieces,aunts,uncles,and pets,and with neighbors,milkmen,plumbers,salesmen,burglars,and peepers,who had learned that people take off their clothes and have sex within the first 5 minutes of meeting one another,who had learned to misjudge the percentage of women who prepare for sex by shaving their pubic hair,having their breasts,buttocks or legs tattooed,having their nipples or labia pierced,or donning leather,latex,rubber,or childlike costumes,who had learned to misjudge the proportion of men who prepare for sex by having their genitals or nipples pierced,wearing women's clothing,or growing breasts.


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In 1994 I wrote to psychiatrist Dr.Linnea Smith(who has an excellent informative site on the harms of pornography including Playboy) about my experience and the harms of pornography. She wrote me back a very nice note and thanked me for my important efforts to educate people on the harms of porn and she said it's especially difficult because the public is desensitized and the media is reluctant to criticize other media especially sexually expllicit media. She sent me two huge folders full of important information on the harms including Playboy cartoons of women being sexually harassed in the workplace by their male bosses and child abuse cartoons!


One of the many things she sent me was a transcribed lecture by forensic psychiatrist and law professor Dr.Park Elliott Dietz, and this lecture was given before the National Conference of State Legislators on August 5 1986 and was videotaped by C-Span. Dr. Dietz served as a commissioner on the Attorney General's Commission on Pornography. He was professor of law,professor of Behavioral Medicine and Psychiatry,and Medical Director of The Institute of Law,Psychiatry and Medical Director of The Institute of Law,Psychiatry and Public Policy at The University of Virginia School of Law and School of Medicine.



He gave many examples of women and children's testimonies who were sexually abused by men who used pornography,and also women who were sexually harassed on the job with pornographic pictures hung up on the walls and shown to them. He said he only used a small sample of the 1000's of women and children who testified. He says many times that pornography is a health problem and human rights issue and he said one of the reasons is because so much of it teaches false,misleading,and even dangerous information about human sexuality.



This is what he said a person would learn about sexuality from pornography, "A person who learned about human sexuality in the "adults only" pornography outlets of America would be a person,who had never conceived of a man and woman marrying or even falling in love before having intercourse,who had never conceived of two people making love in privacy without guilt or fear of discovery,who had never conceived of tender foreplay,who had never conceived of vaginal intercourse with ejaculation during intromission,and who had never conceived of procreation as a purpose of sexual union.,



Instead,such a person would be one who had learned that sex at home meant sex with one's children,stepchildren,parents,stepparents,siblings,cousins,nephews,nieces,aunts,uncles,and pets,and with neighbors,milkmen,plumbers,salesmen,burglars,and peepers,who had learned that people take off their clothes and have sex within the first 5 minutes of meeting one another,who had learned to misjudge the percentage of women who prepare for sex by shaving their pubic hair,having their breasts,buttocks or legs tattooed,having their nipples or labia pierced,or donning leather,latex,rubber,or childlike costumes,who had learned to misjudge the proportion of men who prepare for sex by having their genitals or nipples pierced,wearing women's clothing,or growing breasts.


Who had learned that about 1 out of 5 sexual encounters involves spankning,whipping,fighting,wrestling,tying,chaining,gagging,or torture,who had learned that more than 1 in 10 sexaul acts involves a party of more than 2,who had learned that the purpose of ejaculation is that of soiling the mouths,faces,breasts,abdomens,backs,and food at which it's always aimed,who had learned that body cavities were designed for the insertion of foreign objects,who had learned that the anus was a genital to be licked and penetrated,who had learned that urine and excrement are erotic materials,who had learned that the instruments of sex chemicals,handcuffs,gags,hoods,restraints,harnesses,police badges,knives,guns,whips,paddles,toilets,diapers,enema bags,inflatable rubber women,and disembodied vaginas,breasts,and penises,who had learned that except with the children,where secrecy was required,photographers and cameras were supposed to be present to capture the action so that it could be spread abroad.



He said if these were the only adverse consequences of pornography,the most straightforward remedy would be to provide factually accurate information on human sexuality to people before they are exposed to pornography,if only we could agree on what that information is,on who should provide it to the many children whose parents are incapable of doing so,and on effective and acceptable means by which to ensure that exposure not precede education. In the absense of such a remedy,the probable consequences in this area alone are sufficient to support recommendations that would reduce the dissemination of that pornography which teaches false,misleading or dangerous information about human sexuality. And these are not the only adverse consequences of pornography.



He then says before he gives more examples and research,that pornography is a health problem and human rights issue because it increases the probability that members of the exposed population will acquire attitudes that are detrimental to the physical and mental health of both those exposed and those around them,pornography is a health problem and human rights issue because it is used as an instrument of sexual abuse and sexual harassment.


And look where we are now!






Mark Wukas wrote in the Chicago Tribune March 21 1993 that back in 1989 research by psychologist Dr.James Check at York University's psychology department Toronto Canada found 29% of boys indicated that pornography was the most useful source of sex information including school.parents teachers and peers.He said that to find out what children were learning from the pornography, Check devised a questionnaire that asked under what circumstances is it OK for a boy to hold a girl down and force her to have sexual intercourse.Check found that 43# of the boys and 16% of the girls said that holding a woman down and forcing sexual intercourse is at least maybe OK if she gets him sexually excited.His findings also found that one third of 14-year old boys and 2% of girls watch video pornography regularly.





Also, Robert Jensen explains in his great important book,Getting Off:Pornography And The End Of Masculinity whatever the genesis of the cum shot in the history of pornography we can ask why it continues.He then asks what does the cum shot mean? He says in one of the first films he watched for his study of pornography was the 1990 porn video Taboo VIII and one of the male characters offers an answer.He says that when this man refuses the request of a woman(whom he feels is a slut) to have intercourse with her he tells her,"I don't f*ck sluts I jerk off on them.Take it or leave it.'' He then ejaculates on her breasts.Robert Jensen says that this suggests that ejaculating onto a woman is a method by which she is turned into a slut,something -not really someone-whose purpose is to be sexual with men.He then says ejaculating onto her body marks her as a "slut" which in pornography is synonymous with "woman".


He then says that that assessment was echoed by a veteran of the pornography industry (porn star and director Bill Margold),who told an interviewer:I'd like to really show what I believe the men want to see:violence against women.I firmly believe that we serve a purpose by showing that.The most violent we can get is the cum shot in the face.Men get off behind that,because they get even with the women they can't have.We try to inundate the world with orgasms in the face.


Bill Morgold also said,My whole reason for being in the Industry is to satisfy the desire of the men in the world who basically don't care for women and want to see the men in my Industry getting even with the women they couldn't have when they were growing up.I strongly believe this,and the Industry hates me for saying it...So when we come on a woman's face or somewhat brutalize her sexually :we're getting even for their lost dreams.I believe this.I've heard audiences cheer me when I do something foul on screen.When I've strangled a person,or brutalized a person,the audience is cheering my action,and then when I've fulfilled my warped desire,the audience applauds.


Feminist anti-porn educator Sociologist Dr.Gail Dines said that many of her female students told her that their boyfriends are constantly pressuring them to the things they see in pornography,that they have seen it in the pornograohy and now they want to experience it in real life.She said that many young women are so desperate to have a man in their lives that they will often give in and do these things even though their instincts are telling them don't do it.


Dr.Chyng Sun also reports that many women have told her that their boyfriends and husbands are constantly asking them to the things they have seen in pornography and they don't want to.On quite a few message boards over the years I have seen posts by men asking women if they like to have or will let their boyfriends or husbands cum on their faces like they do in the porn videos.One women made a topic about 5 years ago called,Some Men's Disgusting Obsession and she said her boyfriend constantly wants her to let him ejaculate on her face and she said she feels it's disgusting and degrading and she said he watches a lot of porn videos and she knows thats where he got the idea. A guy responded and said that a lot of young men are watching a lot of pornography on the internet today and they learn to think it's sexy to ejaculate on a woman's face or body.


Another guy posted on an "Adult" Site where they had advice questions and anwers and he posted that he ejaculated on his girfriend's face and she was very angry and upset and she left him for good.But he couldn't understand why and what he did wrong because he said his girl friend was always wild in bed and he said he watches a lot of porn videos and all of the porn stars love facials.On LoveShack.org a guy said that he and other men he knew said that it never occurred or appealed to them to ejaculate on a woman's face or body,only inside her vaginally,until they saw it in pornography.Many women have also said their husbands and boyfriends are pressuring them to have anal sex after seeing women in pornography portrayed as if they love it.





Dr.Michael Flood also explains in his great important report,The Harms Of Pornography Exposure Among Children And Young People, that exposure to pornography helps to sustain young people's adherence to sexist and unhealthy notions of sex and relationships and that pornography is a poor and indeed dangerous sex educator! He also says that particularly for boys and young men the use of pornography may exacerbate violence-supportivesocial norms and encourage their participation in sexual abuse.


I know sadly all too well the effects of even "soft-core" pornography's sexist ojectification of women,because I was repeatedly treated as nothing but a sex object,and grabbed at in my crotch and breasts as a big busted beautiful girl by many teen boys,2 of the many who treated me this way repeatedly, used pornography but this was in 1979 so hardcore wasn't mainstreamed and accessible like now. One of these 15 year old boys made 2 verbal references to the women in Playboy and another shoved a pornographic magazine into my face and said,Here is a picture of a girl fingering herslf! Not that it ever justifies it in any way,but I just wanted people to know that I wore no make up and never wore any provocative clothes.


When I was 25 in 1990 (before pornography was even on the internet and not nearly as mainstreamed) I spoke to Rhea Becker at the now sadly former feminist Women's Alliance Against Pornography & Education Project .I spoke to her off and on until January 1993 and I asked her to send me any information on the harms of pornography and she sent me a lot. I told her that when a lot of men come to my house to fix or deliver things,they made sexist and inappropriate sexual comments and stared at me which made me uncomfortable and that I never wore provative clothes and had little and sometimes no make up on.I told her they were treating me like I was just someting to F*ck,and she said yes and that all comes from pornography.I had so many experiences like this even when I was as young as 13 by some men even and it really was sexual harassment.Rhea also told me that my experience of being sexually abused by boys or men who use pornography is very common and that she knew quite a few women who had similar experiences.She also always said we live in a society that hates women. And she once said most men hate women and then they marry them. And women give birth to sexist woman-hating pornography users! A woman having a son is the same exact thing as a Jew giving birth a to a Nazi or a black person giving birth to a Klu Klux Klan member or any other racist! I feel sorry for any kind women or geunine feminists who have sons!



I couldn't walk down the hall without some sexist degrading comments made by many other boys as well about how big busted I was and they also grabbed at another big busted girl who wasn't even pretty. But it wasn't just teen boys,when I was 14 I was sitting on the artroom steps with a boyfriend and the artroom teacher who was at least in his late 20's early 30's said to a whole room full of 15 year old boys that the boy I was sitting with said it was his turn after his.I'm sure he was a porn user too and got the attitude I was just a thing for boys and men to use for sex and take turns with! I actually am in some way a little "lucky" that this was in 1979 when images of men ejaculating on women's faces and bodies wasn't mainstreamed and all over the place,(back then women were just things to feel,f*ck and forget,now we are nothing but things to feel,f*ck,ejaculate all over on,call woman-hating names and forget! we have really come a long way baby!)because then they wouldn't just have grabbed at my breasts and crotch,but would have ejaculated or at least tried to on my face and breasts!



When I was 17 a school evaluator said that a lot of guys are going to want to get down my pants! Where do we think the teenage boys learn these kinds of sexist,woman-hating dehumanizing attitudes towards women from,the whole sexist,woman-hating male dominated sick society,the pornography that came from it,and the adult men who use it and are influenced by it all.Dr.Michael Flood said to me in an email back in 2002 after I told him about my experience,that he has no doubt on the connection of young men's pornography use and their sexual abuse of girls and women.And there is plenty of research and testimonies of girls and women about this.

If you,are your mother,daughter,sister or friend is sexually assualted or sexually harassed in the work place by men who show you or them pornography as part of the sexual abuse,as has happened to many women and children,and the men say to you or them,you are nothing but a thing to stick penises into,nothing but cum eating sl*ts,wh*res and B*tches,to f*ck,feel,ejaculate all over and discgard,and they say just like the women in pornography,then lets see how much you support and defend it!




Rhea from the sadly former Women's Alliance Against Pornography Education Project in Cambridge,back in January 1993 sent me many cartoons from Playboy and Penthouse of women being sexually harassed,used and sexually servicing their male bosses in the work place and they are horrible!


I asked her what are these cartoons from,she said they are from Playboy and Penthouse. I said what are the men doing to women in the cartoons,are they raping them.She said yeah,they are all different things,you will have to see for yourself and then she said,they're pretty bad.


The Women's Alliance Against Pornography put their own captions under the cartoons under a Penthouse cartoon of a man saying to his boss,who is holding a photocopy of just a woman's huge breasts with no head,"This is my Christmas bonus? A xerox photo of your secretary's t**s?" THe Women's Alliance Against Pornography wrote that Porn reduces women to the make-up of her body parts.


The Women's Alliance Against Pornography wrote that Men are threatened by the concept of women's equality under a Penthouse cartoon of a woman sitting on top of a phallic type nuclear warhead sucking on it with her legs open grasped around the tip of it,and The Penthouse caption has a man in a uniform talking to another man,saying,"Miss Oppenhawn,the newest member of our staff is a nuclear warhead specialist."


The Women's Alliance Against Pornography wrote that Porn teaches men that women's only way of succeeding is by prostituting herself thereby removing the threat of equality.They wrote this under a Penthouse cartoon of a woman journalist with her hand in a man's pants, and the Penthouse caption said,"Here I am again folks,out scooping those male journalists by interviewing an otherwise unapproachable diplomat.I suppose you're all wondering how I do it."Another from Playboy has a female employee with an upset humiliated expression on her face standing in front of her male boss's desk with papers in her hand that she's leaning on his desk, and the male boss says to her,"I had the most asmusing dream last night.Miss Grant-I dreamed you performed an unnatural sex act upon me."



Another Penthouse cartoon shows a woman standing outside of her boss's office with the word President on the door and she's talking to another woman,her co-worker and she has a huge candy cain stuck in her backside,and she says to her co-worker,"Don't expect much of a Chrstmas Bonus this year."The Women's Alliance Against Pornography wrote under this,Pornography elicits contempt for women.



A cartoon from Playboy had a male boss with an angry expression on his face barricading a woman employee on her desk with both of his arms around her,and she's leaning away from him with a screaming upset expression on her face.The Women's Alliance Against Pornography included this cartoon under their heading,Pornography elicits contempt for women.


Another Playboy cartoon has a woman military officer looking upset and humiliated standing with two male military officers while one of them cuts her uniform off into pieces and she's nude.There are other women military officers standing further in the backround on the side.The Playboy caption says,"Usually we just cut off the buttons."


Another from Penthouse has a male news caster sitting at a news desk reporting the news with a woman with big breasts in a low cut top sitting next to him.Penthouse's caption has the male news caster saying, "Chet Carey here bringing you the news along with Miss Clover to provide relief by displaying her t*ts."Another Penthouse cartoon has male doctors operating on a patient,while only a woman's lower part of her body and legs are shown under one of the male doctors clothes,and their caption has him saying,"More suction".


The Women's Alliance Against Pornography wrote under these that Woman's only attributes are in her sexuality.Another cartoon from Penthouse has a nude big busted woman in bed with her male boss,and he's smoking his after sex cigarette and she says,"Incidentally,I'm sorry I turned you in at the office for sexual harassment!"


Another from Playboy has a male boss sitting behind a desk with a sign up behind him that says,Last-Minute Suggestions and his female employee is walking away holding a folder in her hand with an upset expression on her face,and the she says,"*Please* Mr.Fergusen! You can keep those last minute suggestions to yourself!."


Psychiatrist Linnea Smith sent me two huge folders of important research and information on the harms of pornography(she thanked me for my important efforts educating people on the harms of porn,and she said it's especially difficult because the public is desensitized,and the media is reluctant to criticize other media,especially sexually explicit media) back when I wrote her and told her about my experience as a big busted beautiful 13 year old girl being molested by teen boys who used Playboy and how they even made references to the women in it and how one of the boys shoved a pornographic magazine into my face and said,here's a picture of a girl fingering herself.



Included in the research Dr.Smith sent me was other Playboy cartoons of women being sexually harassed on the job by their male bosses.Dr.Smith wrote on top of this photocopied page which has these cartoons on both sides, Job Harassment Sexual Harassment In The Workplace Has Been For Years A Popular Them For Cartoons In *Playboy* Magazine.One of these cartoons is of an overweight male boss with his femalke employee with an upset expression on her face trying to push him away and the caption has him saying,"Ms Beasly why are you resisting I voted for the ERA."(the Equal Rights Amendment that was never passed).Another has a male boss in his office saying to his female employee,You want equality? Next time we'll do it on your desk."


Playboy also promoted child sex abuse, including ,gang rapes of women and children,incest, and sexual murders of women and children as normal and as jokes in thousands of cartoons,articles and even some pictures for over 30 years! Check out psychiatrist Linnea Smith's excellent site talkintrash she has a section,Another Look At Centerfolds where she has *tons* of strong excellent research studies on harms of pornography!















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Sunday, Nov 1, 2009 18:29 ET

How not to make love like a porn star
Hey, guys: Are adult films making you bad at sex?
By Mary Elizabeth Williams


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He'd been jackhammering away for what felt like hours. "You like that, baby? You like that?" he asked, though he didn't notice I wasn't answering. And then, somewhere around the 18th time he said it, it hit me -- I wasn't just having bad sex. I was having bad porn sex.


Unlike other recreational pleasures -- bowling, baking pies -- sex, unless you're a swinger, isn't something people get much firsthand observational experience with. Forget about getting real information from school about how awesome it’s supposed to feel. And the trainer from the gym isn’t going to stand by while you’re getting your freak on, telling you your form is off. Hence the instructional uses of the erotic feature.

We are thankfully a generation away from the days one had to do a stealthy walk of shame to the back room of the local video store for a glimpse of naked people going at it. We can, if we so choose, sit around in our underwear all day and watch Tera Patrick do what she gets paid to do. The rise of youporn.com and other user-generated sites means that "face-sitting in latex" is easier to get than a Domino’s delivery -- and about as good.

Convenience, ubiquity and the goal-oriented, money-shot, male-centric perspective of most porn (hint: Women don’t need to see that much fellatio) have changed us. Much has been written on how porn’s transformation into the modern sexual lingua franca affects women -- the pressure to be bush-shaved and adept at pole dancing didn’t come from Oprah or Martha Stewart. But porn has changed men too -- what we expect of them, what they demand of themselves. And the problem is that thinking you can learn to make love to a woman from watching porn is like thinking you can learn to drive from watching "The Fast and the Furious."

Porno sex is about the angles and displaying the goods. Whether the actors who are putting in a hard day's work on the job are actually enjoying themselves doesn't matter. It's about performance, and performance, more and more, is just another aspect of life in general. We tweet what we're eating for dinner. We upload a photo of the party we're celebrating right now on Facebook. And some of us are screwing like we're trying to go viral, long on ego and short on originality.

It’s hard to feel fully in the moment when you’re thinking of what it would be like to watch it. And there’s something cold and sad and deeply unerotic about being in the throes of it with somebody and thinking, "Why does this remind me of ‘Weapons of Ass Destruction 4’?" As a friend said recently, "Just because it looks good doesn't mean it is. Then I wind up feeling inadequate because I'm not enjoying it." Soon after, another friend mentioned a man she'd been dating, whose erotic repertoire included withdrawing his member at key moments to thump it on her. After puzzling over it with friends, she finally figured out: It's a porn move. Listen, if you're a professional showing off his stuff for the camera, that sort of thing almost makes sense. Out of context, however, it's another situation entirely. You know what description you never want a woman you've slept with to apply to your sexual technique? "Baffling."

Of course, everybody is different, and what wins one person a fan for life can send another rushing to book an emergency shrink session. But if we learn by example, does anybody really want an education from someone who has a fluffer?

If you’re still unsure how to answer that question, I refer you to the funny, sexy and often spectacularly gross new book "Rock Her World: The Sex Guide for the Modern Man" by Adam Glassner. Glassner, better known as gonzo porn auteur Seymore Butts, cheerfully peppers his tome with behind the scenes anecdotes from the world of adult films -- and many, many episodes involving bodies and their fluids going wrong. The man who makes his living in adult features doesn’t advocate for theatrical antics. Instead, he recommends his readers have a "desire to give pleasure" and "genuinely like women."

A person who is out to have a nice time, who has spent at least some of his adult life in the company of living, breathing humans, already knows that. If he has a very strong opinion about the declining standards of the Girlvana series, or if most of the urls on his bookmarks have an .xxx at the end, maybe he doesn't. Perhaps then he's like the gentleman I went home with once, who spent the entire time watching himself in the mirror. He did not have sex with me. He had sex on me.

I'm not doubting, by the way, that women are likewise vulnerable to conflating dirty movies with good sex. I am no stranger to the notion of trying too hard myself, as a few chafed former partners would likely attest. Women have a long history of performing during sex -- but our unrealistic, rock-your-world expectations are just as likely to come from "The Notebook" as they are from "Interracial Cheerleader Orgy." My male friends have their own versions of ill-fated hookups with would-be sex queens. I've heard the tales. I just haven't seen a lot of other women in action.

Likewise, I've known plenty of men who don't treat intimacy like a camera-ready event. I'm just saying to those who do: I once saw an adult movie in which the leading man hoisted a woman upside down, standing, the better to have her service him orally while he dangled her from her ankles. When you feel a particularly ambitious move coming on, ask yourself, am I Rocco Siffredi? Then no.

"Men have been imitating porn forever," says author and sex educator Anne Semans of Babeland.com. "When the Kama Sutra came out did they start busting out the weird moves?" Now, however, "It’s become more acceptable to buy into the porn fantasy." Last year when Babeland conducted a poll about sexual attitudes, one of the questions was, "The most inaccurate perception men have picked up from porn is ..." The top four responses from women were:


How women can have orgasm from just vaginal intercourse
The idea that women love semen in their faces
The notion that anal sex is sexy
That women prefer huge cocks

So now that you know, you can take that pressure off us. Take it off yourselves. Because in spite of or because of the mythology of the ever-rarin'-to-go, hot-blooded man, the physical and emotional reality of male sexuality is far more complicated. A man has to hope his equipment is of pleasing dimensions, that it rises with his desire, that he doesn't finish too soon or go on too long. So When Mr. Jackhammer asked, "Does that feel good, baby?" he may well have really been trying. And did I pipe up and say no? I did not. I ran away and never saw him again, prompting a friend to say with a sigh, "Now he's just going to go do that routine to some other poor woman."

For all the sex we watch and all the fancy moves we know and all the people we've ever seen without their pants, sex remains one of the hardest things in the world to speak truthfully about.

Life's not like the movies. Sex isn't just a matter of doing what comes naturally. I'm eternally grateful to Dr. Grafenberg, the authors of the "Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men," and all the intrepid explorers who've followed in their fingersteps. I have nothing but admiration for anyone who's ever had the guts to simply come out and ask a lover what works and what doesn't. I'm all for going at it on the pile of coats at the party or bringing in a treasure box of toys or talking dirty till the break of dawn if that's what you're into. Because -- and this is key -- it seems like fun. Remember fun?

You don't see a lot of laughing in porn, but some of the best sex in my life has been punctuated with fits of giggles. You don't see a whole lot of genuine female orgasm in porn either, and believe me, that's a pretty big part of what makes a memorable evening for a lady. Aping an adult star doesn't make a person a lover any more than playing Rock Band makes him a musician. Good sex makes room for honest passion and uninhibited enthusiasm, and doesn't feel like an audition for AVN rookie of the year. It's messy and silly and profound. And unscripted.

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Dr.Gail Dines explains in a speech that is on her blog and this information is included in her new important book,Pornland:How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality,that in one of the only studies on the content of contemporary pornography by Robert Wosnitzer and Ana J.Bridges it was found that the majority of scenes from 50 top rented porn films had both physical and verbal abuse of the female performers.In over 88% of the scenes had physical aggression such as gagging,spanking,and open hand- slapping. And verbal aggression such as calling the woman names like b*tch or sl*t were found in 48% of the scenes.The researchers concluded that if they combine both physical and verbal aggression,their findings indicate that nearly 90% of scenes contained at least one aggressive act.


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The importance of individual differences in pornography use: theoretical perspectives and implications for treating sexual offenders.
Kingston DA, Malamuth NM, Fedoroff P, Marshall WL.

School of Psychology, University of Ottawa, Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. dking062@uottawa.ca


Abstract

This article reviews the extant literature regarding pornography's influence on antisocial attitudes, sexual arousal, and sexually aggressive behavior in both noncriminal and criminal samples. The article concludes that when examined in the context of multiple, interacting factors, the findings are highly consistent across experimental and nonexperimental studies and across differing populations in showing that pornography use can be a risk factor for sexually aggressive outcomes, principally for men who are high on other risk factors and who use pornography frequently. Finally, this article presents theoretical implications based on these findings, as well as some clinical implications relevant to the assessment and treatment of sexual offenders.

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"Education Not Exploitation . . .

Don't Play With Playboy" Protest Timeline
by Rebecca Whisnant & Vicki Behrens


Monday, March 16: Beginning of Women's Week, marking 100 years of women at UNC.


Tuesday, March 17: Playboy runs its first ad in the campus paper, recruiting women students for its "Women of the ACC" (Atlantic Coast Conference) pictorial. Serendipitously, on the same day, Wheelock College sociologist Gail Dines visits campus as the keynote speaker for Women's Week. Dines' slideshow and lecture on pornography and sexism in the media inspires several students to begin planning a protest against the Playboy visit. An email listserv is set up for those interested in participating. The protest plans are informally christened "Bunny Hunt."



UNC students protest Playboy's presence on campus soliciting coeds for "Girls of the ACC" photo shoot.

Wednesday, March 18: Cameras and reporters from a local news station arrive at the office of the Women's Issues Network, demanding to know what they are planning to do about the Playboy visit. No one from WIN is in the office at the time, so the reporters harass members of the other two organizations who share the office space. It is unclear how Channel 11 knows that anyone is even thinking of planning anything at this point, since only one impromptu informal meeting has been held. Moreover, those students who are in fact considering a protest are not doing so as part of WIN, but as a new and independent organization formed to respond to the Playboy visit. . . . Later this evening, students develop a petition to present to the staff of the Daily Tar Heel, demanding that they stop publishing Playboy's advertising. They also compose a Statement of Purpose explaining the reasons for their opposition to Playboy.

Thursday, March 19: Word travels fast. The Daily Tar Heel publishes a snide article about some students' plans to present a petition. Meanwhile, the petitions are circulated at a Breaking the Silence T-shirt-making event during the afternoon, and at the Take Back the Night rally in the evening. 103 signatures are gathered. Following the Take Back the Night march and rally, about 10 students go to the Daily Tar Heel office to present the petition. Although they have no signs and are neither loud nor disruptive, the manager rudely asks them to leave since the editorial staff is not there. They politely persist, and proceed to read the petition and statement of purpose. They then hand both documents to the manager and leave.

Friday, March 20: Misogynist, anti-feminist graffiti is discovered in the very early morning. The previous night, at the end of the Take Back the Night event, women and men had written chalk messages in the Pit (a central campus gathering place) concerning their experiences and fears of sexual violence and their hopes for safety and equality. The vandals have marked out these messages and replaced them with such slogans as "Feminists swallow," "Get off your high horse and into the missionary position," and "Give me nudity or give me death"-- and, of course, numerous renditions of the Playboy bunny icon. Fortunately, rain washes away these hateful and threatening messages before most students see them.

Sunday, March 22: A feminist student involved in the protest writes a letter to the editor about this incident of campus hate speech, drawing connections between Playboy, pornography in general, and violence against women. The Daily Tar Heel never publishes this letter. Indeed, they never cover the incident at all, except in a board editorial several days later in which they blandly denounce its occurrence.

The next couple of weeks: Plans continue, via email and meetings, for the protest. Some of the protestors call Playboy under false pretenses to find out where they are planning to do their "interviewing" and to sign up for some of the time slots. They also call Playboy to ask if permission has been granted to use the "ACC" name and logo. Playboy responds that they do not need such permission, since they are using "ACC" merely as a "geographical distinction." One student writes a superb guest editorial explaining the reasons for protesting Playboy, but the Tar Heel refuses to run it, claiming they don't publish guest editorials (a patent lie). They finally publish it several days later as a letter to the editor, significantly shortened, and with text actually altered (e.g. "Feminists have been much maligned in the media" is changed to "feminists have been much ignored in the media"-- hardly a content-neutral, space-saving change). When challenged, the editors respond that "the scanner must have picked it up wrong."

Tuesday, April 7: A female Playboy representative -- formerly a Playmate, now an employee -- visits campus to drum up enthusiasm for the next week's recruiting. She plants herself in central campus locations, handing out free issues and keychains. When asked the reason for her presence, she says that it's because of all the bad publicity.

The next few days: Organizing efforts intensify. Informational flyers are designed and put up all over campus. Since much of the campus discussion of the issue has assumed that Playboy is just pictures of naked ladies, many of the flyers reproduce text and cartoons from Playboy which trivialize or celebrate violence, molestation, and the use of women as objects. Few of the flyers are left more than a day before being ripped down . . . . Meanwhile, students are meeting to make posters and banners for the protest, calling local media outlets to announce it, and getting the word out. The theme of the protest: "Education, Not Exploitation: Don't Play With Playboy!"



WE DON'T THINK SO
The ad insulted its readers' intelligence by noting that many past pictorial participants "have gone on to become doctors, lawyers, scientists, professors, business and government professionals, wives and moms." What the blurb sidesteps is that many more women have gone on to reach those same achievements--and greater--without getting ogled in the all-together by complete strangers.
A much bigger insult came from Playboy spokeswoman Elizabeth Norris when reporter Jeanne Fugate asked how many UNC coeds the magazine expected to attend the April tryouts.
"We find that there are more in the Southern area, because they're used to running around in fewer clothes," Norris answered. "The ACC is very good. We expect to get quite a few there."

Excerpted from Forum edtorial, The Chapel Hill Herald, Thursday, March 19, 1998





Tuesday, April 14: The day of Playboy's recruiting visit -- and of the protest. Flyers have been plastered over central campus by people who choose to remain anonymous: "Freedom of Speech" is emblazoned across the body of a Playmate, and the flyers proclaim that "Playboy is welcome at UNC." We gather at 12:30 in the Pit and march over to the Carolina Inn, where Playboy is holding their "interviews." After some speeches, the gathering is silent for 21 minutes, symbolizing the 21 years during which Playboy has been targeting college women for exploitation. We are standing on a street corner in a light rain, and people passing by in cars look at us curiously while waiting at the red light. They read our posters: "Women of the ACC . . . Anger Causes Change!" "This Bunny Brings Rotten Eggs" "What's Wrong With Playboy? sexualizes children, ridicules feminism, programs male sexuality, trivializes sexual violence, eroticizes inequality . . . PLENTY!" "Carolina Men Don't Want Playboy's Fantasy Objects" "Anti-Sexist College Campus -- No Place for Playboy" "Women of the ACC Cry Foul: Don't Play With Playboy!" We can see some of the parents explaining to their children who we are and what we're doing. Other students pass by on the sidewalk. Some laugh nervously and refuse to meet the eyes of protestors who say "hello." Some men make rude comments; most just stare. Occasionally a woman in a car honks her horn in support, or a woman crossing the street whoops and gives us a thumbs-up. We march up to Franklin Street, the main drag, chanting "Education, not exploitation!"; some protestors are stopped and asked for interviews by local TV stations. Back in the Pit, we reread our Statement of Purpose, and a few male students begin to shout us down. The speakers continue talking, and invite everyone who is watching to discuss the issues surrounding the protest with us. Some protestors stay a while and argue with the angry men, while others head home, having had our say, if only for an hour or so, about Playboy.









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