Toward the end of his life, David Kerstetter trusted only his mother. He had counted on their daily phone calls. Susan Kerstetter always went through her own checklist, asking him if he was OK, if he was taking his meds, if he was eating.
His parents lived two time zones away in Peoria, Ariz., a Phoenix suburb. David, 38, lived on 13th Street NW about a block from Logan Circle in a place that he once shared with his partner, Paul. Paul died unexpectedly in October 2007.
Since then, David’s calls to his mother became that much more important. He needed to talk, recalls Susan Kerstetter, even though he’d sometimes blow off her questions. He’d joke she was being too much the Jewish mother, but he always called.
On Nov. 5, they talked three times. Around 8 p.m. on that day, David had a panic attack. He had just come from an appointment and was on his way home when he started to freak out. He called his mother and told her he was holing up in a room at the nearby Beacon Hotel and could not bring himself to go home.
Years before, David had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD. Sometimes he was good about taking his medication. Sometimes he was not. He tried to kill himself in the spring.
Within the past year, David had grown increasingly convinced his neighbors were plotting against him. They were sneaking into his house through the attic. They were trying to plant drugs in his apartment. They were peeping through his windows. They had bugged his phones and had hired goons to follow him around. When he heard voices, Susan recalls, they were the voices of his neighbors up in his attic, whispering about what to do with David.
“People were watching him,” Susan Kerstetter remembers David telling her that night. She thinks he might have mentioned he had been followed to his 5 p.m. appointment, a meeting with the attorney who was handling his partner’s estate. David told her: “I don’t feel comfortable.”
Susan Kerstetter offered her son some sensible advice. “I told him if you don’t feel comfortable going home, don’t go home,” she says. “Maybe you could collect your thoughts and calm down.”
David said he would stay in his hotel room and order takeout. His mother asked about his corgi-chow mix, Pepper, and his cat, Six Toes. David assured her he had fed them and that they would be fine.
Two hours later, at about 10 p.m., David called again. He was talking from a pay phone, his paranoia coming down hard. “He sounded scared,” Susan Kerstetter says. “There’s fear in his voice.…I could tell it wasn’t him.”
David had gone home but it was no good. He told her his keys wouldn’t work.
“They locked me out of my house,” David told his mom. “They wouldn’t let me in. I don’t know what to do. I think they killed my dog because my dog’s not barking.”
Susan Kerstetter says that David pleaded with her to call a locksmith. She suggested it would be easier if he did it. He complained that his credit card wasn’t working, that he didn’t have enough change for another call. There was more back and forth, and David got frustrated.
“You know what, just forget it,” David muttered and hung up. It was the last thing he said to his mother.
Back in Arizona, Susan Kerstetter tried David’s cell phone the rest of the night. He never picked up. In the early hours of the following day, she called one of David’s neighbors, who agreed to check on David’s condo with the property’s maintenance man.
David Kerstetter lived at 1325 13th St. NW. The complex, named the Iowa, includes one multistory building and a courtyard in the back bordered by attached row homes. Kerstetter lived at No. 10. The front door opens to a set of stairs leading to a second-floor living room and kitchen. More stairs lead to third-floor bedrooms, including the master bedroom, and an office.
When the neighbor and maintenance man arrived at Kerstetter’s address, the screen in the storm door had been ripped out and the lock on the front door had been completely taken apart. The front door was open.
Shortly before 10 a.m., the maintenance man called 911. According to D.C. Police Department spokesperson Traci Hughes, the call was for the open door.
Two cops arrived—a rookie and a master patrol officer with more than 20 years on the job. They were greeted by the Iowa employee and led to Kerstetter’s condo.
The veteran officer, Frederick Friday, says the employee called up to Kerstetter, asking him if he could come upstairs. Friday says Kerstetter shouted back that he knew he was lying—that he was with the police and refused to let him upstairs.
The employee pleaded with Kerstetter some more. But it was no use. Eventually, Friday and his partner went inside. “We have to check—that’s our job,” Friday says. “Can’t just leave him.”
At some point, the police were with David in the master suite. The home’s interior design and lavish touches had once been featured in Metro Weekly, but when the cops walked in, the bedroom was a mess. Kerstetter was wearing only boxers. Neighbors say he appeared to have stopped eating; he was nothing but skin and bones.
Allegedly, Kerstetter was holding a knife when he met the two cops.
Kerstetter was shot multiple times, according to his mother, who cites the death certificate. He was taken to a hospital, where he was pronounced dead a short time later.
Friday and his partner are on administrative leave with pay, which is a standard course of action in fatal shootings by D.C. police officers. In the coming months, the department will investigate the circumstances surrounding Kerstetter’s death, though D.C. Police Chief Cathy Lanier has already told the Washington Post her people acted in self-defense. She did not return repeated calls seeking comment.
What’s unlikely to come out of the investigation, however, is the answer to this straightforward question: How did a man who seemed to pose no danger to anyone besides himself end up being killed by the police in his own bathroom?
According to a police press release, officers were forced to use lethal force after “a struggle ensued.” The shooting occurred after officers “repeatedly ordered the man to drop the weapon.”
“He wasn’t a bad person,” Susan Kerstetter says. “He wasn’t a person that would attack somebody. Deep down, he was a person, he was still a human being. He had an education, and he could’ve had a future. When he was on his medication, he was OK. He could have lived a normal life.”
Download a letter from Kerstetter here.
UPDATE: Read two more letters from Kerstetter to his parents here and here.





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is it true that the police have a policy of not releasing the name of the officer(s) involved in shootings? if it is true, i think that's a terrible policy. don't we have a right to know?
One time I was disposing of my sons rifle in the out door garbage thingy when the police car arrived at my door. I am luck to be alive, they did not notice me with the rifle at the end of the driveway at the garbage can in that touchy moment.
If someone were to try and fight me with a knife, I would try to defend myself too.
This story was well-written - good job cherkis. Better than last weeks scrap yard story- yawn
I find it pretty galling how little of role his (now concerned) family and friends had in this man’s life. A call or two a day from half a country away for someone this disturbed just doesn’t cut it. He was obviously, deeply disturbed and the fact that his family, psychiatrist etc would allow this man carte blanche is pretty disturbing. It must be very easy for his family to pass judgment from Arizona, when they’ve known for many years their son was extremely and critically unbalanced.
This police officers previous history with this guy, gave him more of an excuse to shoot the guy, not less. Friday had to deal with this guy before as he was trying to commit suicide. Everyone, his parents, his landlord knew of this man’s distrust and hate for “the police”. There were obviously a stash of knives in this mans bedroom, that he kept to fight the conspiracists, where he confronted police. I am not so sure why it is so hard to believe the police story, that an admittedly deranged man attacked/attempted to attack a police officer who shot him. I don’t care how “gentle” and “kind” he is when he is having a good day, or what he was like “deep down”, or happens to be taking his medication, the man was a clear danger to himself and everyone around him, and had been for years, and obviously posed a clear danger to these officers. Policemen aren’t telepaths. Case closed.
Again, as far as I am concerned the officers did exactly what they were supposed to do in a situation like that. This is indeed a tragic story and there was no real reason for this man to die The REAL blame should be laid at the feet of his obviously disinterested family. In situations like this, where the individual is clearly unable to make rational decisions, those decisions have to be made for him, which is what his family should have done, years ago.
There are many questions surrounding this death that eventually will be answered if there is a thorough and objective investigation. Yes, it's possible that the shooting will turn out to have been in self defense. But we should first address some troubling questions. Assuming, as the police chief asserted, that the condo maintenance man called police about "an open door", why did the police enter Kerstetter's home without a warrant AFTER he had told them (and the maintenance worker) that they had no permission to come upstairs? Assuming, as the police chief asserted, that "a struggle ensued", why were there no signs of a struggle nor any injuries to the officers? And assuming, as the police have asserted, that they knew Kerstetter was paranoid and feared for his life, why did they insist on entering his bedroom, uninvited, with guns?
You can be "crazy" in your own home, and unless police have a reasonable belief that a crime is being committed (or about to be) they should not be able to enter the home. That bar is (or should be) held pretty high - if you are dancing naked in your living room with no one around, and no one can see, police can't just "do their job" and intrude on your home. Remember, it wasn't that long ago where playing rock and roll at normal levels disturbed people who thought it was Satan's music, no matter what the volume.
Think about this - two men with guns enter your home without your permission. Might you pick up a weapon to hold between yourself and these two intruders? I would say that doing so might be a rational response, especially if you were prone to paranoia and fear.
So, what would have happened if the police had said "unless there is a crime committed or about to be committed, we can't go in to a private residence" and left? My guess is that someone would still be alive, and another would not be wrestling with thoughts about taking another human's life.
I know that police have a tough job, but remember that "To Protect and To Serve" applies especially to the person who is in his or her own home legally. Only once the police ignored the sanctity of the "castle" did this tragedy gain momentum.
I'd like to see you reason with the paranoid, dillusional man carrying a knife. I mean, really.
Please, write some articles in support of police officers who have live and work in this stressful city, seeing the very worst in people. It's got to be one of the most difficult jobs in the world.
There is plenty of controversy in this town -people who are done wrong and need an advocate, you don't have to make up any drama. Ugh!
But should the police have handled this case alone? Officer Friday may not have thought so. He says he called David Kerstetter's psychiatrist and others. But he couldn't get a hold of any of them.
I wish that your sensational headline "Man Killed in his Own Bathroom" matched the sensitivity of your story.
Remember he had a knife and threatened the police with it. He could be a very scary person when he was paranoid and angry. I am sorry his life ended this way and I am sorry for his family. Thank goodness he had his mother to talk to in recent months. He needed help but had trouble admitting that and I doubt that he would have ever gotten the care he needed. His recent life was a series of cries for help and he was clearly desparately unhappy.
Thank you for writing the story. Again, I am very concerned about your tabloid headline. This is a very complex story and it was not to your credit to reduce it to those headlines. Most people will not read the story. The police spent a lot of time with David and Paul over the years and are to be commended for their efforts.
Better training and a bit of restraint seemingly would've prevented this from escalating to a situation where the officers felt it necessary to shoot and kill this man. If I'm flat wrong, maybe the police chief can explain it. Until then, I'm just wondering.
With this current mayors demanding that all out of state clients be returned to the District, & with us still having the type of non-appropriate services from the police & others, I am afraid we are going to see more of this.
And further, what about less-than-lethal force such as pepper spray? Are DC police allowed to carry that? That could have incapacitated the victim enough to disarm him and transport him for observation/treatment. Gunshot wounds? Not so much.
Nobody from the MPD has publicly made such claims. So why do you?
Everything you wrote about Master Patrol Officer (MPO) Friday and his actions showed that he did everything he could to help David Kerstetter.
Mr. Kestetter had tried to kill himself in the spring…why is suicide by cop not even a thought in your article?
You pointed out that the officers on the scene sustained no injuries…would it have been better if they had been stabbed a couple of times? I got news for you….the Kevlar vests that are issued to the police only offer slash protection…they are not stab-proof.
So lets look at the scenario; A man who is aggressive and is known to fight with police officers, is also known to use crystal meth, is known to have mental problems, who is not taking his medications, and has tried to kill himself in the past, is now standing with a knife in very close quarters with the police in the bathroom. If he lunged at the police, how much time do you think MPO Friday had to decide to pull the trigger? Even if he just made a quick movement towards MPO Friday, do you think MPO Friday’s family would have wanted him to take a few extra seconds to decide whether the man lunging at their family member was REALLY a only a danger to himself? And the very idea that a mentally unstable man with a knife in that environment, in that kind of mental condition, and with that history, was only a danger to himself is rediculous. Would you feel comfortable standing in close quarters to that man under those conditions?!?! And do you really think that the officers just stood in the room and decided to execute Mr. Kestetter? Even after standing outside for 20-30 minutes trying to reach Mr. Kestetter’s psychiatrist and other people to help him?
So while you seem to focus on drawing into question the ability of the officers to handle the scenario they were faced with and doubt that they defended themselves, I applaud MPO Friday for doing his job. While Mr. Kestetter’s death (and life) are tragic, blaming the police officer who was (in all probability) faced with a split-second decision that would either send him home to his family if he defends himself or possibly to the morgue if he doesn’t, is unfair and inappropriate.
My sympathies go out to Mr. Kestetter’s family.
So because the man has a mental condition, they wouldn't hav eprobably cause to go in and invetigate the open door? The police had a legal right and obligation to enter the house and invetigate.
Erik - "why would they force a confrontation? "
Umm....would it be better off that they leave him in there to kill himself and go home?
It's always easier to blame others than to take responsibility. Mr. Kestetter was a threat to the police officer's safety and he reacted. DC police don't have Tasers, so MPO Friday used the equipment he had available. And if you think pepper spray was an option, forget it....not only is that not going to stop a person who's started lunging for you with a knife, it doesn't work on everyone and if you're high on crystal meth or psycotic, there's a good chance it won't stop you either. If I had a gun and was in the same scenario as MPO Friday, I would have done the exact same thing.
One point I do want to make is that the police do have non-lethal weapons. They have mace and the metal baton. The question remains: Could the officers have used those tools instead of their guns?
I know that's a question the Kerstetter family raised with the police official they met with following their son's death.
"Umm....would it be better off that they leave him in there to kill himself and go home?"
That's what I call a false choice, and it's a hollow rhetorical device. As if not forcing a confrontation means automatically bailing on the entire situation. Consider this: The officer's first move in this situation was to call for help. He couldn't get anyone on the line right away. Then he went in. All I am asking is this: Perhaps going into that house was a job for someone trained in just these sorts of situations? As events unfold, perhaps we'll learn why they felt they had to go in when they did.
The police do have a metal baton.....you try swinging it in a closed space like a bathroom and see how effective it is. As far as the mace....I'm not taking a chance on the mace working when my life is on the line. I would make sure that I go home to my family and stop the crazy man with a knife before he gets even one inch closer to ending my life.
To "Just Wondering" - Umm....the man was shot in the bathroom.....that's not a claim or an opinion...that's a fact. Read the article.
The officer stated that he shot in self defense.....what isn't to believe? Why do you doubt him? Do YOU have inside information? Are you connecting with Mr. Kerstettler from beyond the grave? Do you also doubt the neighbor who said "He could be a very scary person when he was paranoid and angry."
Like I said before...in a close quarters scenario like that, you can take all the time you want, but if I only have a fraction of a second to decide who dies....me or the guy with a knife and I feel he is an immediate threat to me, I can guarantee who will be carried out of there in a body bag. Do you REALLY believe that a MASTER PATROL OFFICER of 21 years just decided to take out his gun, point it at Mr. Kerstettler, and execute him? And this rookie cop is also going to lie and risk his future on this as well by lying for him? I highly doubt it....
And for Erik - He waited.....and if he waited longer and Kestettler killed himself, you all would be screaming at him for not doing anything. A suicidal man was having a psychotic episode...something needed to be done. How long is he supposed to wait? An hour? Three hours?
Clearly, some people here just love to think that by questioning everything, they're doing some kind of civic community watch on the police. Like I said, do you REALLY think you would have made a different decision to shoot if you were in the same scenario? Why question what MPO Friday and the rookie officer did....because the shower door wasn't shattered? What does that have to do with anything? Because there wasn't any injury to the officers? Would it have better if they let him stab them first?
MPO Friday made a brave decision to go in and confront a psychotic man with a knife, asking him to drop the knife. Mr. Kestettler decided not to drop the knife and MPO Friday had to make a horrible decision under stress. I only hope I would have done the exact same thing if I were MPO Friday, knowing that I would get to go home to my family. I applaud MPO Friday for his bravery....not chastise him for doing his job.
On that note…I’m not going to argue with people who think that they should approach every move made by the police with skepticism and turn it into a witch hunt. I'm done...I've more than made my point.
"Just wondering" - You just keep making stuff up to make it fit your questions. It doesn’t' say that the other bullet was found in the bedroom. I'm not against asking questions, but your parents and teachers lied to you.....there are such things as bad questions. And the questions you're asking are ridiculous. You probably also think that the US Govt. planted explosives in the World Trade Center and that no plane actually hit the Pentagon. So while you're out looking into all these conspiracies, don't forget to look for Bigfoot, the Fountain of Youth, and a way to win at slots...those are all more likely to exist than your scenario where those officers were not justified in shooting Kestettler.
Oh well, last one. Do don't own a gun, do you?
Another point: You appear to feel that some people on this board have fingered MPO Friday as having screwed up without knowing the facts. Yet you appear to have reached a similar level of certainty on this matter, only in the opposite direction.
Finally: No, it wouldn't be sad if people cried that the MPD covered something up. What would be sad is if no one cared, or if people were too afraid to cry out. Dave, you'll have to get accustomed to the notion that a sky-high level of scrutiny must be applied to this case. As the Washington Post said in its fabulous recent editorial about Rawlings, a police shooting isn't just another case, but rather goes to the heart of the relationship between the force and the people it serves. I will never, ever make any apologies to you or anyone else for vigorously pursuing all the facts, all the lines of inquiry, about this case and others like it. Stop bellyaching about people asking questions; that's our job.
Erik - If that's your job to ask questions, try asking ones that are relavant. Wondering why a cop shot a psychotic meth using knife wielding suicidal man in a confrontation can be answered by my 5 year old nephew.
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>Thank you for sharing this article with me. Unfortunately this story
>is all too common in the mental health world. However there is hope on
>the horizon. In Virginia the implementation of CIT (Crisis
>Intervention
>Team) for Police and Connectional Officers in currently is being set in
>place. In fact; this week in the Hampton/Newport News 24 Police and
>Correctional Officer at participating in 40 hours of CIT Training. This
>is second set of officer to go through this type of training this year.
>This program is designed to equip Officers with the tools and knowledge
>required to deal with the exact situation that lead to Mr. Kerstetter's
>death. I would like to think that if the Officers that responded, had
>received this type of training, the outcome would have been entirely
>different.
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>If you interested in following up on CIT go to http://www.nami.org/ And
>search on CIT.
>
>Bob Williams
>President
>NAMI Hampton/Newport News
>NAMI VA Board Member 2007-2011
Certainly 14 year old DeOnte Rawlings, also shot and killed by police, was neither white nor gay. And his case has attracted far more media and public scrutiny than David Kerstetter's death.
I never had a sucidal thought until I was drugged - in the name of "mental health".
I was Tazered by the police for being between them and a friend who was trying bto withdraw for psychiatric drugs.
I survived.
She is still drugged.
Organized psychiatry is a deadly menace.
I will never side with the DC Cops. Living near a 7-11, I get to see dozens of them standing around night after night, year after year, doing nothing. I've been to their little citizen meetings where they like to tell you all the good they've done. They are as ill equipped to catch a rat in this city as they would to catch a criminal or have any sort of confrontation NOT end in gunfire on people who were in no way a threat.
Let's not forget the Swann Street murders and how they screwed that up.
Let's not forget killer of a British man in Georgetown...the killer had mugged someone weeks earlier and had his enlarging penis medicine he bought with the victims stolen credit card sent to his house. Victim gets call from credit card company, calls police to say, "I know where my mugger lives" and the police respond with "Well, we don't have probable cause to search." Then he goes out and kills the guy in Georgetown.
Nice city we live in.
And they've arrested three people for obstruction of justice on the Swan St. murder....how did the MPD mess that up?
And here's some news for you.....cops are allowed a break. If they chose to spend it at the 7-11, so be it. You go ahead and slam the cops all you want....they do a job every day that you could never do and they would still go and help you if you called for them. That says a lot more about their character then you could every try to break down.
Was that incident less than stellar work by the MPD...it looks like it. But to say that it means that Kerstetter wasn't a threat and that Officer Friday decided to execute him is asinine.
How did they mess it up? Um, how about by waiting three years to do it.
And they are allowed a break? Really? For four straight hours smoking cigarettes on the sidewalk and eating donuts? Sign me up!!!
Obviously you're a cop. And an incredibly angry person as evidenced by your stalking of this article and the comments and arguing with anyone who has an opinion that differs from yours.
Facts are that the cops in this city are among the worst of many metro areas.
I'm just still trying to understand how anyone can honestly think that a suicidal, aggressive, psychotic, knife wielding, bi-polar, ADHD, crystal meth user who was known to have fought with the police before can be viewed as someone who wasn't a danger to anyone. $1,000 to anyone who can make me understand that.
It is nothing short of an oversight by Chief Lanier.
The officers are lacking the general knowledge of how to handle mental patients and how to determine the difference mental illness and brain injury.
My experiences with the department is tenured, my partner has a brain injury.
MPD is lacking basic knowledge on how to work with people with such illness.
There is also a force issue in the department. It is serious and problematic, yet remains unresolved.
They are basically behind on their training and behind on the basic principles on how to handle situations.
This particular one sounds as if the officers rushed in and became frightened and ended up using force, un-necessary force!
It'll be most interesting now to see how this one is resolved.
This story is incredibly tragic. I hope that City Paper continues to follow the story and at the end of the day the truth about what happened between the police and David comes out in full.
It is sad that two officers felt so threatened by one slight built man that they had no other choice in their minds than to shot him. Not once in the legs to stop him or bring him under control but shot numerous times and striking the victim in such a way that he died at the scene.
This speaks to the core of problems in basic training both within the MPD and the District's Department of of Mental Health.
Mistakes happen but clearly in this one, a life has been lost!
Investigation, how can we depend solely on the MPD to investigate itself in this situation? Far more training is needed and must be done now!
As much as we would like to blame the officers for acting irrationally there is due process for everyone. The situation is being investigated and until they conclude one way or the other what happened we should respect the process. If the process is flawed then attack the system and change it.
I'm not blaming Kerstetter to suggest that the situation could have been avoided had he not stopped taking his medication. But It played a huge role in what happened, possibly a larger role than that of the officers that shot him.
Do the police actually have more of an obligation to protect us than we have for protecting ourselves from danger? I don't agree.
I am sorry what happened to him. Dealing with mental illness is a tough, tough, tough thing to do and it appears that his family really loved and cared about him and wanted him to be well.
So welcome to DC, Mr. President-elect. Welcome to a city where our elected leaders don't feel a need to answer to the citizens when they kill one of us. Pathetic!
Also, there is no certain number of shots that should be fired in such a situation. Shooting to wound is also a Hollywood fantasy that gets people killed in real life. Police are trained to shoot to stop-period.
I'm not saying it was justified as I wasn't there and all I have to go off of is the info the media puts out.
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